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I STINK;Answer truthfully, how many women thinks their men don’t cheat? I’m a bargainista

I had such a great time in all 3 classes.  Step was awesome!  We did a new routine and I kicked it up a ton of notches.  Kickboxing was great but I was getting tired by hr #2.  Yoga, ah, she killed our triceps with tricep push-ups! YAY!!!  Suffice to say I’m exhausted to the max!  I drank a ton of water with electrolytes added and ate my energy bar in between classes.  I’m just too tired to take a shower.   I stink.  Completely and utterly stinker! :)

Blaithin, next month I will certainly try to make it to a custom runner shoe store for a pair but for now, I can’t budget it in.  Instead I went bargain cheapo and bought a pair of New Balance running shoes for $35.00.  See, I have the expensive ones that cost me $120 but I rarely wear it because my foot shrunk 1/2 a size since I bought them.  Since I’m only going into my 5th month of running, I figured I need to spend my money wisely.  As I did today.  And Rod replaced some of my black tank tops that conveniently disappeared during a wash a couple weeks ago.

Tuesday evening I’m not sure If I will exercise or take the day off yet.   It’s to be determined.  I want to do something but I will have to wait and listen to my body.  If it tells me tomorrow is good I will do something.

Been thinking a lot about our instant gratification  society that we live in.  For the most part, most buddyslim members are in long term relationships or marriages which is great.  We have some great single ladies too.

Something happened to a wonderful friend of mine and my heart goes out to her.  It tears me up to see how hurt she is by a man she loved.  He is cruel.  He swept her off her feet only done to feed his own ego.  This friend is a wonderful person and does not deserve the bullshi* she got from him.  But I know she is strong enough to get pass this difficult period and one day find the man of her dreams.

Now, I know how much it hurts because my ex not only cheated on me numerous times, but the final time, the one in which I had direct evidence, I left him for.  Even then, he still try to lie,cheat and deceit his way into my heart.

My question is, how many of us really know if our loved ones is being true to us?  How many of our men have lied to our faces and been with other women?  How many of us truly knows the truth?  Do we really want to know the truth?

I believe, as I told my friend Blaithin, that there are very few faithful men and I’m sure faithful women out there.  Especially in this age, this time where a man can be on the computer talking to someone else and we may or may not know about it.  How would you handle it if it was you?  Would you leave or stay?  Does having children play a role in your decisions?

How I’ve handled it with my boyfriend, we have a very open relationship that allows us to freely talk about ourselves.   There’s very little I do not know.  I know most everything that he does.  Not to say it couldn’t happen again.  But I established from the first day I met him what I expect from a man.  I hope and wish that by keeping an open relathionship where we do not feel the need to hide our desires and dreams will keep our relationship free of the deceit that I’ve experienced in the past.