I’m over it; Recomittment to my journey Countdown to 5 yrs & to my loyal buddyslim friends
Been “lost” with everything for the past few days. I wanted to work out so bad but sat out for more days then I care to count. I even canceled my girl date with Nygel Saturday. We are going out Friday night dancing - whoo hoooo!
I hate being home the last couple of days. I feel so unmotivated and unproductive. I didn’t do much other then being in bed relaxing. Rodeny wouldn’t let me go to the gym or do anything. I now think I really do have adult ADD. I can’t sit still for more then a few hours at a time.
I’ve been taking some time away from buddyslim to focus on my family and friends. It’s great to be here, but the past few months, this place is so dead.
I wonder, why am I really here? Why do I bother to read people’s blogs? I mean, most people come for a few days, a few weeks, maybe a month or so and boom, they gone. Then some people act like you don’t exist. While other people, turned their backs on you and you don’t even know why. Whatever! I’m not going to waste another second wondering why people stop supporting me. No longer my issue.
Other then the wildcat’s forum…….I’m not that interested in much here anymore. I just can’t be motivated to give people hi five when they ignore me. Being real right now.
Honestly, I feel a lost of motivation to be here. I don’t feel the energy, the love, the comittment that I saw many months, even a year ago. Yes, as MJ noted, there are a number of loyal people here, other then that, I’m having trouble staying motivated to motivate people.
This used to never be a problem. Come good days or bad, I love being here, reading up, getting to know people.
I am going to refocus on my personal journey and that of my loyal friends and my cats. Anyone else, hey, what goes around comes around you know. And trust me, I’m not speaking to anyone personally, I’m just stating that I only want to focus on people who supports me back.
I’m over being sick. I’m back to work and to my routine with a vengence. I have nearly 2 months left now before my 5 yr anniversary. This day is making me happy and sick in the stomach at the same time. ARRRGHHHHHH I really want to make my goal!!!!!! 
Monday I’m going to scale back just a bit. I’m eating about 1500 calories before the gym. NO 3 hours. Just Kickboxing then weights. 2 hours total. I promise Rod I’m taking the Step class out of the routine.
I know what you mean. I have just sat around all weekend
it stinks
I haven’t been on here as much but I’ve tried. I figure things will pick up around the holidays. I have been keeping in touch with a few buddies all the time and I love it and wish there were more!
I had to re-think my lifestyle plans too. I’ll write a blog…
I’ll look out for your blog as I always do.
Yep, you are one of my friends who have not left my side. I appreciate it.
It is depressing sometimes. The attitude since i’ve been here has gone through a lot of changes. People come and go. However, I guess i’m just stubborn. I’m here and i’m staying. I couldnt do without you guys here.
You are right Deb, the attitude has change hasn’t it. Thanks for sticking with me, through it all.
I’m here and I have no plans on leaving. I love this site, I love reading blogs and seeing how motivated people are. It is just such a motivating thing being around people and seeing the changes in them. I don’t always post on blogs, sometimes I just don’t know what to say. I really hope you get your motivation and love for this place back, because you are one of the most motivated and inspirational people that I know and I love seeing your progress and reading your blogs.
I am determined to stay too. I am sorry to see buddyslim dry up and die, but for those that are still here, like us, I am determined to stay around. Nancy, I know you give all you have to us, and we appreciate it, but you do have to be true to yourself and do what feels right to you.
I too have noticed the lack of participation here..not really sure why. And.. I know what you mean about people joining and then they disappear! It can be disheartening. I know that you put so much in to Buddyslim. You give 110% to this site. ..you are so supportive and encouraging, so I understand what you are saying. As far as being supported..motivated..etc. you are right-it is a two way street! Again, I understand what you are saying..and honestly, I don’t blame you.
Glad you are feeling better! Go out there tomorrow and kick botty!!
**I know you will meet your anniversary goal!! You can do it!!!!!
Love ya!!!
I think you are amazing and you know this cuz I tell you this all the time!!! I was thinking about how even I feel guilty for not checking in every 2 hours or so. And I am not even a team leader! I think you do the best you can, and if it’s not good enough, then that’s all you can do. I feel compelled to be on here, trying to make the new people feel welcomed, and the older people feel good, etc. I feel like we can only do what we can do. It gets overwhelming sometimes. I don’t know where everyone’s going, but I know for a fact that you have done more than your share here. I am truly grateful for all you have done for everyone here! Don’t take it personally. I am serious when I say this, but I think without you and a few others, buddyslim would have lost my interest awhile back.
To clarify, I mean don’t take the people leaving personally because you have done all you can. My mom has this saying: “Do your best, and leave the rest up to God”. It seems like we are going around chasing members, trying to make them like us and then they leave anyways. I don’t want to leave either, but it sure hurts with all the rejection.
Thank you Stacey! I’m completely humbled by the love you always show me. I will certainly do my best and give the people who shows me love the same back. It does bite a bit when people who at some point you support shun, and turn in the other direction without so much as an explanation. I’m not a mind reader. If you don’t want my support, say so. I prefer to be there for those that want it.
I would not have said anything, but I see it from more then a couple people. And, unless I did something personally to them, I don’t understand the 180 degree in attitude towards me.
And as you say, rejection does hurt. It’s not like some of these people are new people to me. It’s people I’ve known for a while. And I hope that they at least gave me the benefit of the doubt instead of just giving me the cold shoulder.
At least give me a chance to explain myself.
Well, perhaps, my support was never wanted in the first place. That’s how I see it now. It meant nothing.
OH hun, I am here to support you thick or thin. I am sure when you hit that 5 year mark you will be happy. ARe you at least feeling better?
Hey girlie, hope you’re feelin a bit better. Rod was totally right to not let you go to the gym… take it wasy today ok?
Hey Hun, Firstly, I want to thank you for the comment you left in my blog. Deep down I know I can reach my goals, but having someone who inspires me confirm it for me - makes me believe in myself even more.
I am glad you are feeling better and I have no doubt you will reach your goal in 2 months!
I am sorry you are feeling down about this place and how it’s changed. I know I need this place. I love logging on and getting my daily dose of motivation and inspiration.
Thank You again.
I really enjoyed reading your blog - not because it was a rant and rave - because u kinda of said what everyone who has been here a while has thought!! its honest, ur feedback , support to us all is honest. I dont know why ppl, come, leave, shun, but can guess it is down to there own personal battles occuring in there heads, dealing with their lives. ITS not ABOUT u - ppl time out a lot, esp here - because they are in search for help. U have had success - for me 5 yrs or not = u have long reached the goal of turning ur life around, u have a real lifestyle change going on & it is wonderful. However for those - many of us - struggling to get a little behaviour change in to hear - seeing u can perhaps bring out the green eyed monster = something they will intime come to deal with , once they managed the battle in their heads. Dont change who u are, dont be dishearted by the lack of support - use this site how it helps u - vent , express ur anger, love, boredam, get it out. In the end u have logged ur journey here , as many of us have - u have been lucky to logg it to success. It is admiring. For those of us trying to reach this point - u shall - stick to portion control, move more = do not give up on urselfs, even if u do on the buddies.x
Seems like being sick has got you down. Getting back to the gym and getting the juices flowing will feel wonderful.
I am here for the long haul. Sometimes my computer won’t let me blog, but I try to get them on as best I can. I’m a bit down due to not losing last week when I was exercising and eating right. Guess we all have week like that. The number had better go down this week because I am really doing everything possible. I love reading blogs, but I wish people would not leave and there would be more of it.
I love BuddySlim, and truly feel that, on some level, this place is saving my life. Blog by blog, story by story, friend by friend, I am learning to put this journey in perspective. I’m learning to fight for what I need, laugh with others and cry when there’s simply nothing else to do. You’re a *huge* part of my process, Nancy, and there are simply no words…much, much love and strength to you, as always.
I am with you on getting back on track again!!!
Hey girl!! i know i feel guilty for not coming on here the last few weeks but gosh i have had way to much going on. I dont feel the energy like i use to in here. I had a hang full of friends that i read their blogs every day. They have not blogged in over a month. What is going on in here?? Thank you for supporting me even when you know i have been bad! your a great friend and because of you im here right now!!!
love you!
hi there! it’s long lost me. hope your week looks up soon.
well i’m new here so i don’t know what it’s been like in the past but i feel that people are really supportive!
Been working my little fingers to the bone this weekend and didn’t get to read your blog until today. Don’t know if it matters, but you—-not just BuddySlim, but you—-have absolutely made a difference in my life. I was dubious about even joining a site like this. It seemed too much like Facebook and Myspace, which are not my cup of tea. However, I gave it a shot and tentatively set up my page and did my first blog. You were the absolute first person to respond (my very first buddy) and you did so in such a loving, accepting, and encouraging manner I was overwhelmed. Your encouragement and progress have been inspiring. The dedication you have to running Wildcats and the forum is amazing. Please know how much I appreciate it, as I’m sure all of us Wildcats do. Please also know I read and keep up with the forums but don’t respond on there because I just don’t really get how to do it. I try to follow everyone’s blogs and profiles, though. I wish there was some kind of IM that went along with BuddySlim. I am sorry you are feeling abandoned by some, but please know what you are doing does really make a difference to me and a lot of others. We love you, Nancy!
I agree. I love your blogs negative or positive. You keep it real.
5 years..wow..what a commitment to your health! FABULOUS! I am so proud of you.
BS has gotten real slow and alot of ppl have stopped commenting & I guess just stopped participating at all. I dont know how to feel about it honestly. I remember a time when I left for a bit, came back and most of my buddies were gone. BUT I leave messages for people for months til I finally give up.Thats just me…but lately I feel like you..why bother? So I am sticking to ppl I see have logged in during October & this month.
I think we have hit a time of year that people feel, well, I won’t bother to diet or exercise because my New Year resolution will be to lose weight. I don’t expect much activity here until the panic hits in January:)
I feel very much the same way regarding support, in that if I leave comments on someone’s blog but they don’t ever seem to return the favor or support me or acknowledge, I drift away from that person. It’s about give and take, and sometimes being someone who gives a lot can drain you.
I tend to visit blogs of people who have recently commented on mine; again, it’s giving back what they gave me, and given time constraints and limited resources, it’s not a bad way to operate. No one expects you to read and comment on everyone’s blog, Nancy. Or if they do, well, maybe it’s high time they learn disappointment, eh?
“I now think I really do have adult ADD. I can’t sit still for more then a few hours at a time.”
me too! This is one of the reasons I am not on here as much anymore! After being at a computer or school for hours in a week, it is so hard to sit still on a computer locked up int he house, isnt it ?!?!?!? Grrr! I am so bad at being sick cause I have so much trouble sitting still
Plus being sick sux! See how it threw me off my new running streak? But I am breathing out of one nostril better today so since I have school all night tonight, I am back at it with ya tomorrow!
We make connections and friends and we don’t wanna lose touch, ya know? Not everyone is READY for this journey and that is why they go. We can’t make them see what we have discovered. While it is sad, it is the way it is 
But noticve this in you—u must REALLY be one heck of a SWEETIE because u CARE sooo much about those people and where they are at despite their lack of effort in themselves—and that is sure SOMETHINg, my dear, sweet BUDDY~ XoXoXo
and Nancy, u r here cause u belong here
Great blog! It should always be give & take from all ends.
I know…there was one girl who pmed me for weight loss advice and I gave her the sparkpeople site and answered questions…but she disappeared! I don’t know why…
And then when I send booster notes there are lots of buddies who haven’t been on in months!
Good luck on reaching your goal! I know you are working hard to get there!
Must be something in the air… I’ve found myself contemplating dropping off. But then I wouldn’t get to see how you and others are progressing and that would feel too much like turning my back on good friends… not something I like to do.
So even if I get quiet I’m still here, reading your blogs and cheering for your success! 
Really glad you’re feeling better!
I think BS changed. But not necessarily in a bad way. I think everyone kind of just forgets or does something else. I remember I used to be on here all the time. Then I just thought I needed to get a new life haha…
And I know for me, this time of year gets to me. I get REALLY depressed. Daylights savings time takes away all the sun and it gets dark and cold and BLAH! I just dont feel like doing anything.
But when we all are here, we try to be supportive and thats what counts!
Congrats on losing and keeping it off so long. You know you did a goob job! And I bet Rod is happy youre taking some more you and him time!
I do think it has changed. One reason I backed off of blogs a bit. I will give support where it is needed, but my primary focus is the cats. I am a lifer here though, this place saved my life.
Thanks for your comments in the past, i work a really weird schedule and am either working or sleeping but try to comment and participate where I can. I agree with the commenters here already that this place is worth having. I guess you dont really realize how much it helps to have people that can relate on your side VS people in my everyday life that havent got a clue and could care less about what I am trying to do.
I’m feeling the backing off thing myself. Ever since we moved, I come on, but can’t be bothered to workout.. I’m catching up on my favorite foods *slaps own hand*.. haven’t even found my scale yet. Maybe once I start working, I can get my groove back…..