DANG GIRL,WHY U SO FAT!!!!! It’s not a question but a statement
As I sit here setting up the WILDCATS forums for the new weeks, it occurred to me how much my weight plays a role in all that I do.
For example, when I was bigger I rarely left the house. I was anti-social. I hate having the “stare” from people. The look of “Dang girl, why you so fat!”
See, when you are only 5′2″ like me and weigh 220 lbs and climbing, people love to make someone like me the butt of their jokes. Men, especially Asian Men and other men, who were my ex’s friends, used to make “funny” jokes about my fatness. Asian people - ah to them being overweight meant you are off the dating market. They want nothing to do with me! My ex, his friends used to make fun of him because I was so short and chubby standing next to his 6′7″ frame. Whatever!!! I don’t care anymore about those losers!
The “DANG WHY YOU SO FAT!!!!” was never a question, but a statement because they think I’m too lazy and that’s why I’m fat!!! They never stop to think differently. But truth be told, I allowed my low self esteem to eat my way up to that weight and IF I did not stop it in 2005, who knows how much more I can gain?
Well, guess who saw at the gym the other night? One of my ex-husband’s friends. I saw him working in a corner, I decided to be cordial. I went up and gently tapped him on the shoulder. He didn’t know who I was, his eyes - was soooooo big it nearly popped out of his head. He stuttered and couldn’t say one word to me. He pointed at me and wanted to say “WOW” but he didn’t.
BUT I SAW HIM - WATCH ME AS I LEFT. IT WAS A GOOD FEELING!!!!!!!!!!!!!
So, goes to all the assholes in my previous life that used to make fun of me - IN YOUR FACE!!!!
To add some more honey to my night, 5 people, random people, came up to me and said, thank you for being in class each week. When they can’t see the instructor they can see and hear me. I’m the “second” instructor to them for kickboxing. I was humbled by it. THEN one lady, even grabbed my sweaty palms and just looked me in the eyes and said, you motivate me each time you are here.
And in Pilates, well, gotta love it. I had a ton of fun.
Today is my off exercise day. I managed to get some walking in at break and lunch - total of 3.25 miles. BOY I CAN FEEL IT! 
Tomorrow - I’m dressing up as a Lakers Girl for my ZUMBA class. I have kickboxing and ZUMBA. I want to win the costume contest.
This is a reminder, that the past is the past and I’m making today a better day. ALL YOU HATERS IN MY OLD LIFE THAT ONLY SAW ME AND MOCKED ME FOR BEING BIG -SCREW YOU!!!!
I love it! You go!! Have Rod take pics of you in your costume, I want to see that!!! Have fun at Zumba! I hope that friend of your ex’s goes and tells him how HOT you are! You are awesome! Love you!! ((((((((((((Nance)))))))))
I think it ate my comment cuz it keeps telling me I already said that.. grrrr…
LOL I found it girl. Hey I just sent you a test. I will get him to take a pic for you.
OK STUPID ME - THAT IS SUPPOSE TO SAY TEXT!!!
That was your moment to shine–so proud of you for going up to that guy –and showing him how awesome you look now–didnt that feel amazing!
To add to it–those people coming up to you–anyone say…awwwwww. Such a great day for you!!
That is SOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO kick ass! I bet that felt great about your ex and the people coming up to you!
Awesome blog =]
OH, I love that feeling. Keep up the good work and congrautlations on you getting to do kickboxing class.
You must have felt soo great. People who just look at you as a fat person and not a actually person are just rude, and you got to show him up. Thats awesome
He didnt even say anything to you??? What did he do just stand there and stare like a dumbass??? How embarrassing! ( for him!)
Angie, yep, he sort of just said nothing but just looked me up, head to toe and frontwards, backwards AND because in the gym there are mirrors every where, I saw him watch me leave the manly weights area after I finished my routine.
AHHH you guys are so great! Yes, the satisfaction from seeing an A-whole after almost 8 yrs was a good feeling.
I hope he tells your ex what a loser he is haha!
Ilove it!!! What losers! Why do they think we are so unworthy when we are fat? Boy you showed them !!!
I love this!! So glad that jerk got to see you now!!! I can just imagine how sweet that had to be!!!
Good luck in the contest..hope you win!
I love this!!! You inspire me so much. I love you attitude and courage. You are so right, screw them. They don’t matter.
whoa! you motivate just about everywhere you go! great blog!
I’m with Nicole… I want to see pics of that outfit girlie!!!!!
When I went home last summer, people didnt recognise me because I’d lost so much weight. The people I got on with, and who were friendly and nice to me when I was bigger all told me I looked great, and couldnt believe how much I’d lost. Those who were bi**hes, and absolute bas***eds to me just stared….! It was like “in your face” and it felt goooooooooooooood. Those people made my teenage years a living misery… and now I feel I have a better life than them because they’re stuck at home…. it’s good to meet people from your past at times!
This is soooo awsome! Nancy, I think a whole lot of people are pretty happy that you started your journey in 2005, and took so many others along for the ride, in person and over the net. I have a kickboxing class today too, the Beat-it, can’t wait!!! Gods, I LOVE, LOVE, LOVE kickboxing!
I hope you will win your costume contest!
Ohhh, how good an “IN YOUR FACE” moment has to be. LOL
positively awesome
HELL YEAH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Reading this gaveme chills!!!! It’s kind of how I feel that you are to all of us here at Buddyslim!!! You are amazing and a marvel!!! Be proud Nancy!!!
“For example, when I was bigger I rarely left the house. I was anti-social. I hate having the “stare” from people. The look of “Dang girl, why you so fat!””
I was the same way. As outgoing as I am, I would be home most of the time all by myself. Life is so different now, isn’t it? Great blog, Fancy Nancy! I love u, girl
And I am so so so proud of u ~~~
One day, I’m gonna be able to look and feel the same way and I hope beyond all hopes that I somehow run into my ex (who belittled me, called me fat, grabbed my love handles NOT out of love, and constantly told me I needed to do sit ups) and get to say “In YOUR face…screw you!” Man, that will be a good day!!
Oh my gosh! You put it perfectly! DANG GIRL, WHY YOU SO FAT. That totally describes that look some men will give you. Next time I get a look like that, I’m just gonna crack up thinking of it popping up in a bubble over the jerk’s head. Weight can be lost but meaness is to the bone. I love that you got the chance to rub that dude’s face in it. Kharma, baby!!!
Hoo-waah! I bet that guy was so surprised! People are particularly judgmental when it comes to overweight people. I can’t wait to shove ugly words down haters’ throats; gaining weight didn’t make me any less of a person or any less of a strong woman warrior
It’s great you are motivational for the people in your class. Oh, I miss my kickboxing classes so much again!
Wow ! That was your moment … And you know he was like (she looks good !) I bet that felt so good to you, you can be so proud of yourself all the hard work paying off, you are an inspiration to me and all of of us here , never leave . . . lol
HAHAHAHA! DANG GIRL WHY YOU SO FINE…will be their next line girl.
Wow…I would have seemed like a beast to them then…LOL…I am 5-2 as well and at my highest was about 250…No sense in looking back girl…Keep your eyes straight ahead…
LOL! This made me laugh–but it’s very inspiring.
lol! Great story!
Alot of people react to my weight loss strangely. I once saw this girl last spring I think (maybe fall) but then I saw her in the cafeteria in the spring…she calls over to me and walks over but almost falls on the ground because her flip flops slid…and she came over just to tell me how different I look and how much did I lose? lol
I bet that just felt great. I am 5′2″ and weighed 304 lbs. Imagine that! It was miserable, I was miserable! Now at 247lbs. I would love to weigh 220lbs. For a minute at least! I am glad you got the IN YOUR FAT FACE EXPERIENCE! lol His not yours! lol
Nicely put!!!! It is sad just because someone is “fat” it doesn’t mean they are lazy or not good at their job or being a parent or wife…but it seems that is how we judge and it sucks. It was awesome to read how you lost weight and feel so good about yourself. Hopefully I am right behind you.
Loved it!! Loved it! Smiling for you. Marge
YOU ARE A GREAT INSPIRATION! THAT IS HOW I WANT TO FEEL.. CONFIDENT
AWESOME! I can’t wait for that day for myself.