No Fathers in our lives;Why so quiet on buddyslim these days?
I have to rub my eyes a few times. But I don’t think it’s me. It’s been soooo quiet here on buddyslim. I’m sad to see so many regulars not on. Where is everybody?
I thought the summertime was bad, but it’s worse now. I know a lot of people are sick, having to deal with the flu and most people are back in school.
I wonder how much of an impact not having a site such as buddyslim effect their journey. I know when I’m away even for a couple of days, I care a bit less about my own journey.
What can I do but do my part and contribute? I miss you guys - the people that are not around. Those that are here every day - thanks for being here!
LET’S SUPPORT EACH OTHER!!
Last night the Step class was horrible - sub was not a good instructor. And I was so nervous yesterday I didn’t eat enough food. I did an hour of pure upper body weights, 20 min. on the elliptical and 1 hour in Step.
Today I plan on doing 40 minutes lower body weights and 40 minutes of the elliptical and 1 hr pilates.
Last night Rod and I talked a bit about what our plans are. I asked him if I should stop watching these like wedding programs on Oxygen, Bravo…etc. I just hate sitting there wishing. Why wish when I should live in reality was the question I pose. He told me, he just wants to spend the rest of his life with me. I know in his culture, he needs to take this up with his mom. The 3 of us needs to sit down and talk this through. Days like this I miss my step dad, wish my father was in my life and Rod’s father was in his life. But we don’t. It’s just us. We will make it work!
Sometimes my computer won’t let me blog on here and it’s not always user friendly. So, that’s why I don’t blog as often as some do. Then, I think others feel bad if they gain weight and don’t want to talk about it. But I like to report in either way. My daughter wants me to go to Zumba tomorrow night, so I’ll see how that goes.
It’s supposed to be medium paced so that would be good starting out. Plus I am a bad dancer unless I am drunk (which is rare), but then that might be what I am thinking in my haze.
Yeah I need to come on here or I get off track easier.
Well just make your dream wedding within your budget. Figure out what’s the most important (food, decorations, etc) and spend the most on that. Weddings–you spend as much as you have on them.
Are you using Mozilla Firefox or just Internet Explorer Carole? I know that I have a hard time posting blogs when I use explorer.
I’m happy to see you when you post your blogs.
Oh please go to Zumba and let me know how it goes.
HI HOLLY!! Well, you are always here like I am - most days.
I know I always look forward to your blogs and comments.
Nancy I know this hurts to think you are not having your dream wedding. But look at it this way, the wedding lasts for a day, but the marriage, can and should last for a lifetime!! You got the man of your dreams, something a lot of us only ever wish for. I think it is breathtaking that he wants to spend the rest of his life with you. You got a real man, there, one who adores you, and takes part in everything, even helps you dress!! What a treasure. Please don’t let a minute of it got by in regret. You got it ALL going on, just see it, ok?
I understand about missing your dad. I still miss mine terribly. So many things I would still like to talk to him about. To hear him laugh, and tell me “it is gonna be ok”. Sigh. But we know, somehow, they are still watching us and in our hearts, we have to hang on to that.
I too, would like to see some oldtimers back on Buddyslim, I miss the excitement.
We have to rev it up ourselves, and we can do it.
Love you very, very much Nancy!!!
I too, would like to see some oldtimers back on Buddyslim, I miss the excitement.
We have to rev it up ourselves, and we can do it.
Love you very, very much Nancy!!!
Nancy I agree it has been very quiet the last few weeks, I think we are just winding out the rest of the year. Come January everyone will panic because the have been slacking and let the weight creep on over the Holidays and will be back full force. I think those wedding shows are ridiculous there is no need to spent that kind of money for a 3 hour event and the stress it causes.
I’m here! I check in every other day or so. Just have had a lot going on - little extra time, and in all honesty, little to say. When I do post a blog, only a few comment, so I just email those buddies instead.
I notice it’s slow in the blogging world and the forums too.
Only a few people sign on religiously - not sure where everyone else is. Glad to see you guys on.
I KNOW WHAT U MEAN, I CANT HARDLY GET REPLYS BUDDYS ARENT BUDDYS IF THEYDONT STOP BY, I HAVE 1 OR 2 WHO COMES BY, I HAVE EVEN WENT LOOKING ON OTHER SITES, LOOKIG FOR INTERACTION I CANT GET HERE, I HAVE ONLY BEEN OR HERE 3 OR 4 WEEKS, AND ITS NOT VERY ACTIVE, ALITTLE BIT DISCOURAGING!!!!
I know I am not on as much as I used to be. But I have REALLY been trying to be on at least once every two days and sometimes daily! Just not the 10 times a day it used to be
Hee Hee Hee~~~ I am sorry ur substitute instructor was crappy 
Heya, we elouped and it was a great experience. We didn’t have anyone really, and to be honest the $$$ spent and no pressure… I’ll do it again exactly the same way if I had to chose again!
I dunno, I haven’t noticed it being particulary quiet. But I don’t keep too close of an eye on the blogs, it takes all my energy to keep up with the fora!
Hey girls!
It’s not just the blogs, I mean in general, in the forums, just not a lot of participation. 
I’ve been here almost 2 yrs and it seems the lack of participation is well, it’s been going downhill.
I bet w/ season’s holidays coming up a lot of regular buddyslimmers have fallen off the wagon. No one wants to diet around Thanksgiving & Xmas! But that’s just my guess! I hope that someday your white wedding comes to reality. Every girl deserves her day if she’s found her love. Good Luck Nancy!
For me, I come on and read the blogs sometimes yet Im just not logged in. I hadnt commented much because usually when I log in its right before work and I have been late to work trying to get off buddyslim, so I just read nowadays with the intent of coming back and commenting but I usually dont. Sometimes I dont have a nice word to say. But I’m going back to my open honest commenting on blogs regardless.
I actually didnt think it was slow as far as presence, if you look at the pics of whose came by to visit they are still most of the same faces they just havent been replying.
I’ll send you the reason why I havent been on the forums much. I read them all when I do go but….
And I thought it was just me that was sensing the stillness around here….
I agree with Kama…a wedding is just a day,but I do think that later down the road, you can plan a bigger wedding…say for an anniversary or something
It is sad that neither of you have fathers to enjoy this occasion with but I’m sure both of your mothers will happily help you plan. Sometimes its good to get your other family members involved or friends.
I really would like to join in some classes…step or something. but I can see how having a bad instructor will throw everything off.
Ithink so many people are busy worrying about holdiays and eating with family and friends that they don’t want to com eon here and admit they had a bad day or failed. Come January there will be a lot back.
Kama–that was a beautiful comment you left–anyone say…awww.
Nancy–I too have noticed that its quiet now days–here and in the forum sometimes. Makes it harder to find someone to play with doesnt it. Personally, I think if I stopped checking in here–things would go downhill from the lack of support and a daily reminder that “hey, you have something you should be doing and its called taking care of yourself”-which can be easy to forget and say…aw never mind..tomarrow will be soon enough.
As for the wedding–I think Kama said it beautifully.
I know you will make it work no matter who is and is not in your lives.
I have noticed the quiet forums recently too. I can see it picking up after the New Year. You know so many people vow to get healthy that time of year. By this time of year much of the excitement and motivation has died. The ones left now are the die hard power houses of the site.
Oohh, I want to bne a “die hard power house” on BS!!
I think it’s fun to watch “dream shows” (for me it’s the one about kitchens!), but I get sad and discouraged if I watch them too often! 
Nancy, I’d be more active in the forums, if I didn’t yap so much in my blog!
I’m…oh wait, where am I? Well, if you see me tell me I am out looking for myself! ha
Last night I worked all night on one of my projects until after 11 at night…I still have to find a topic for my speech paper! yikes…
Nancy, my husband and I were together for 7 years before we ever got married. We already had a 4 year old son, were living together and hadn’t planned on even tying the knot when we did it. We decided on February 05, 2007 that we should maybe go to the courthouse and get married on the courthouse steps on Valentine’s day (kinda this big shin dig here in San Antonio). It was out of the blue and we were just talking about it casually BUT THEN…I told my mom and she had a cow because she wanted to be here when we did it and the 14th fell on a weekday and she couldn’t get off of work. SO…we decided, oh we’ll just do a little thing in our backyard and wait until the weekend. The result….A BEAUTIFUL little private event, with lots of candles, a country duo playing only love songs, and he and I very happy. I watch those shows sometimes and think to myself, should we have had a bigger wedding so that I can have all these pictures, and the big dress, etc…BUT I know that we did what we wanted to do when we were ready to do it and honestly, it was worth the wait. I know that we will be together for the rest of our lives. OH BUT ONE MORE THING I FORGOT TO MENTION…I fell down the stairs the night before the wedding and broke my tibia and fibia in my right foot!!!! SO…no cute heels for me, just a hot, sexy, pair of crutches!!!!! HAHAHA!!!!
Kama said it perfectly, the wedding is 1 day, but you have a lifetime to spend with Rod. He sounds like a dream man, and its obvious he loves you to pieces. You got lucky girl, very very lucky. So don’t be too sad and depressed, and plan a day that symbolizes the both of you and your lives together. You don’t have to have the huge wedding for it to be beautiful, you can have a smaller wedding and just spend the money on what is important to you.
I am on the site everyday, just don’t always post and I have trouble writing blogs lol.
It has been quiet on here… I’ve been quiet too. I think the others have a point… there will probably be a surge of activity after the new year starts. Anywho… trust me on this, keep things simple. You wont have any fun if you’re stressed out!
i have been gone all weekend..wow! i just have not had anytime to get online..im takin a break from my plant path collection to look around and read some blogs!
As a new member, I haven’t really checked out the forums yet. I will have to give them a look-see.
For those of you who are missing your old buddies, ADD ME!
I’m really enjoying reading blogs and profiles and getting to know folks on here and I promise to stay in touch.
I had a big beautiful wedding but a disaster of a marriage. Your guy really seems to make you happy. Do what you can afford now and then you can do your dream wedding when you renew your vows on your 5th or 10th anniversary or sometime when money’s not so tight.
Well for me, I have to share my computer with my daughter. I also try to workout. No excuses, just reality. I do love you guys! I am here when I can be.
Hi Nancy… I’ve been spending time on the ex-smoker site. Haven’t had a cigarette in 19 days.. but this has been really hard to do. No excuse for not keeping in touch with friends here (shame on me) as you are always so supportive of me. Getting to the gym & trying to catch up on paperwork that piled up over the summer. Luv U.. Mo
we would have been married somewhere on a beach and had a nice reception, but my dad wouldn’t travel anywhere. so we got married out in the country on a farm in my parents’ garden. It turned out beautiful, because of my Dad, sis and my imagination and forethought w/flowers. Rented a gazebo and had a reception indoors at a nearby country ranch dance place. It was just right for us at the time, we paid for most of the expenses.we look back and don’t regret much except for the black tuxes the guys wore in 80 degree weather in August.