To blog or not to blog - does it really matter?
Today I truly did not want to write. For what reason should I do this? But I decided I must do it. I must account for my feelings, thoughts -good or bad. It is after all a chronicle of my weightloss journey. I guess I feel a bit like I’ve talked about everything I want to talk about. I already addressed so many different issues - does anyone really care what I think? 
Well, after thinking for a while - I do know of one person who cares what I think! ME!!!!!
Like last night, I had one of my worse workouts in a long time. NOT because I didn’t eat adequately because I did! Not because I didn’t sleep adequately because I got in 7 hours. NOT because I didn’t drink enough water or did not take my vitamins! I did everything I was suppose to do to prepare for my classes, but I lacked one thing today - MENTAL STABILITY! 
I had too many thoughts on my mind. I missed count during kickboxing and I just felt blah. I’m mad that I allowed my mental state to effect my workout. Usually I can use whatever is going on in my head to help foster a very good session, but I couldn’t last night.
Therefore, my goal for Friday is to release stress and not allow ANYTHING ANYTHING MESS UP MY WORKOUT!
I do have one thought: I DON’T CARE IF A PERSON LOST WEIGHT FROM EXTREME DIETING - STARVING IS STARVING - IF WHAT YOU WANT IS A TEMPORARY WEIGHT LOSS JOURNEY THEN SO BE IT - BUT I’M NOT ONE TO GIVE YOU THE KUDOS YOU FEEL YOU DESERVE. THAT’S JUST ME! I WOULD RATHER BOW DOWN TO THE PERSON WHO LOST 10 LBS IN ONE YEAR THEN TO THE PERSON WHO LOST 70 LBS IN 3 MONTHS BY SACRIFICING THEIR HEALTH IN THE FUTURE!!!!!!!!! So what - you look good now but once you started EATING again and because YOU didn’t learn the skills to keep the weight of permanently - YOU WILL GAIN IT BACK!!!
GUESS WHO GETS TO KEEP THE WEIGHT OFF? THE ONE WHO LOST 10 LBS!!! If all you want is a temporary FIX, then I’m not one to support you!
Why this bothers me - because its sends the wrong impression to new people on this journey. NO you don’t need to rush your journey or expect to drop 5 lbs every week. Life is not Biggest Loser! Yes, you will lose a couple lbs a month or maintain but be proud because you are doing your body good!!!!! Until these people who starve themselves, fast take diet pills sustain their weight loss for 5 years or more and their health and body AND WALLET did not suffer - then I say ok. Until then, I’m not going to be saying GREAT JOB!! Because then I’m being fake! And I have no respect for those who goes around promoting this lifestyle either!!! I know I’m extreme but shi* but that is how I see it.
Yah, you’re right, it’s their life and you know that’s why I leave them alone - not my business, but I will say in my journal how I feel about it though - don’t care what they say or think. I just know that I’m against it and I have some pretty good valid reasons why!
Hey Nancy! I am with ya girl! I am one of those that took a year to lose 10 pounds and let me tell you, it was worth every friggin day of it because I know mine is gone for good.
I agree with the whole blog! These blogs are ultimately for ourselves so write what you want, when you want.
It’s hard to break the mindset of losing fast at any cost… but you’re right. I want my loss to be forever, not just for a while. So it’s taking me longer this time… the end result will be worth it.
Hope you can keep your focus in your next class!
Am I really first to comment? Whoa!
Dang… she beat me by a second or two..
right on Nancy, I caught BL this week for the first time in years and was disgusted by the girls getting upset cause the only lost 5 lbs that week.
You hit the nail on the head for me about letting the mental interfere with your workout. I use to go to the gym take my time now I feel rushed to leave because too many people demand my time.
I have felt that way during workouts before, it happens.
I know it bugs you when people do extreme diets, they will learn.
I do have to say I like your blog, but the ad that came after it was ironic. AFter reading you blog the ad is for a diet pill. oxymoron or what? lol. Sorry didn’t mean to not take it serious. But I agree healthy is the right way
When I first started Buddy Slim earlier this month, Robert (who disappeared a couple days later) commented on my blog that “it is not about losing 50 pounds, it is about losing one pound 50 times.” I think that is so right! I can honestly say that I have done the losing 50 pounds in 3 month thing and its great until you go back eating food again and not taking pills. I’ve learned the hard way that doing it the right way is harder but totally worth it!!! Oh and one more thing…I LOVE YOUR BLOGS, SO YEAH, IT REALLY MATTERS!!!! :oP
Nancy, I go back and forth on this…until recently, I’ve been very black and white on this. Now, though, if the person seems friendly/interesting/whatever I just let them know right away that I don’t agree with their method, and won’t advocate on their page or anywhere else, but I’ll still check in with them and wish them well. Kind of a cop-out, I know, but as long as I’m true to my own goals, and am honest with them about my feelings, I feel okay about it.
That being said, I’m in such a rut, I’d be THRILLED if I could lose 10 more lbs this year! Slow is fine, mama, sloooowww is fiiiine. Hey, that’s true for a lot of things, isn’t it??
Yep, what you think is what is important.
Sorry you were not fucussed during your work out. I hope Friday is much better for you. you know I feel the same way about diet pills, starving, and all other quick fixes. They do way more harm than good.
HUGS
Yep I absolutely agree. I am a huge advocate of losing weight the healthy way and making the life changes to keep it off permenently. Besides why exchange one disorder for another?
I too have wondered how this effects newcomers who may be impressionable… when they read that someone lost twenty lbs in one month by starving themself?
This site was built on losing weight the right way with support & no gimmicks. Any one who took the time to read the information about buddyslim when they joined would know that.
Rock on, Nancy!! You know how Ifeel about this. good old fashioned healthy food and exercise are the way to go! No health problems down the road from the fad dieting! Sorry you didn’t get a good work out, but workout hard tomorrow and let the stress fly out the window!
Nancy, this is what I love about you. You are REAL. Would a day off workingout give you a stress relief? Know that some of us REALLY do care about you>
Yes, as a matter of fact, it does matter! lol. Not only for a record for yourself–but you never know when something that you wrote will reach out and really help someone else.
I hope your next workout rocks!
You helped me. I was being made fun of by my sister for only losing 25 pounds in 11 months. So, I almost started a new whacky diet plan and then thought better of it. You are right in that we have to have lifetime plan, not a get thin quick plan that won’t last. Eating properly is a learning experience and it takes time to build good habits. So, thanks for reminding me not to take a quick fix way out just because someone makes fun of me.
I like it when you write. You definetly have what makes one a motivator or an inspirational writer. Oh, and I am on the same side of ’so what?’ when it comes to the crash diets & miracle anything. I hope your next workout will be super-charged, girl!
if you want to blog about it do so. your space. I agree with everyone
“Therefore, my goal for Friday is to release stress and not allow ANYTHING ANYTHING MESS UP MY WORKOUT!”
U can DO it!
I HOPE u have a GREAT weekend, my friend—LOVE ya! ~~~
You always do really good on your workouts , maybe you push to hard , some days will not always be as good as others . . . You make a great trainer ! I agree 100% about how losing weight on crash diets ,starving yourself is basically sabotaging yourself ! I have done that and i grew up with a mother who constantly on starvation diets who nearly died because of them was hospitalized and almost lost her life, im taking it slow and easy one day at a time and im eating, i eat all day long , and im not feeling deprived , i love it and i know im going to keep it off because i changed my eating habits to healthy ones and im watching portions, it works ! Thanks for the great post !
AGREED!!!!! Nancy is your email working I sent you something awesome today
the comment above is mine. oops
I completely agree. Even if I didn’t agree with what you are saying (which I do, wholeheartedly) I would agree you should write whatever comes to mind.
I always want to see you writing it out on here. I’m sorry you had a rough workout. I hope today goes much much better.
I hate the ads that pop up on our blog pages! Silly pill ads, “hate your belly?” ads, crap I’d never allow on my blog if I had any control over it.
Anyway, I agree that mentally preparing for a workout is important. Kickboxing in particular! You really have to focus on what you are doing during kickboxing.
I too feel that slow and steady wins the race! I’m with MJ…I hate those ads! Lose X amount of stomach fat in less time…you can’t spot train! I can doing 50 minutes of cardio…if my body wants to burn fat off of my ears or my toes…then that is where it comes from!
I agree with your sentiment but am more of a live-and-let-live sort of person. I figure that the people who are going at their weight loss with drastic measures are just at another point in their journey. They have yet to learn the pitfalls of that method. But as I know from my own past experiences, they will learn—-the hard way. I know I had to. LOL
My own weight loss this time will probably be pretty rapid at first, but this is only because I am doing low carb and have so much to lose (130 pounds). But I totally agree with you that slow, consistent weight loss is the way to go.
well said….
oh! and HAHA! thanks for the comment on my blog… pretty funny.. “give away my fruit”.. lol.. *sigh* nancy.. nancy.. nancy.. what are we to do with you….
You’re the best. Leadership by example - that’s how I’d sum up your presence here. Health first and foremost - ALWAYS. Mental stability and understanding as women that will never look like those airbrushed pics no matter how much we sacrifice by not eating or endless workouts - TAKES SECOND PLACE! I’m on the bandwagon of doing it right - even though it’s taking me longer than I would prefer…..
Normally don’t comment on blogs but had to give you kudos for this one.
I’m glad you’re blogging and I agree with you 100%. Although - I had/have alot of weight to lose, so it has come off pretty quickly once I identified what works for me. I’ve lost 70 lbs in 5 months. But not by starving - by eating 1700-1800 calories a day (and sometimes more when I feel like it and sometimes less when I feel like it) and by challenging myself at least 5 times a week at the gym. But that is sustainable and will be my life forever and ever amen. And I like it and I dont’ even remotely feel like I’m deprived or on a diet. In fact I feel a little guilty it’s been this easy.
Of COURSE I would like it to come off faster - but I want to look good in my skin - literally and metaphorically. So steady as she goes, building muscle now. And I know that I will not always lose at this pace, but that’s ok.
Yep I agree. I’ve done the quickie route in the past..how many times?? Ok good gravy who knows..too dang many and look at me now..trying to lose the same weight..probably plus some.