I do not like being under a microscope day in and out; Why gloating is played out
You know what I don’t like about change? It’s making change to accommodate change! 
I told my girl Nicole, how overwhelmed I am with all the changes I made in my life, specifically the last few months. It got to a point where I just feel like saying screw it!!! I don’t want to do this anymore.
I don’t want to change how I dress! I don’t want to change who I am! I don’t want to change to appease other people! I don’t want to change just so someone approves of me!
Screw that crap! If people don’t like me for who I am, what I stand for and what I’m about, then that is there problem not mine!
Lately I feel like I damned if I do and I’m damned if I don’t. If I do something, someone somewhere in this universe is upset by my action. If I don’t do something, someone in this universe is upset with my action.
You know what? I’m me! For a while my focus on buddyslim was skewed. Skewed so much that I was letting my energy focus on the wrong issues. I need to refocus, re energize and care, worry about issues that makes me happy with contentment.
Contentment comes to me in the form of:
WILDCATS PROGRESS!!!! Whether or not we win each week is not important. What matters to me is seeing each of my friends, my cats, my buddies reach their goals. Nothing excites me more then seeing joy in accomplishing our goals
EDUCATION Believe it or not, I continue to learn more and more about this weightloss lifestyle by being active here each and every day. By participating each day in blogs and the forums, I learn at least one new thing I can incorporate into my life
WHY DO I BOTHER TO BE HERE? Because it’s about doing it with NOTHING NOTHING NOTHING BUT GOOD INTENTIONS!!!! I am not here to gloat about what I do each day. If you think I gloat, then don’t read my blogs or what I post. I only post what I do in my life and how I address my exercise and food issues. I’m not here to be MISS POPULARITY!! I’m here because I want to make a difference. There are days I feel like you know, I don’t need to keep a public journal of my life, some people are going to think I’m full of myself. SO FREAKIN’ WHAT!!! IT’S MY LIFE AND I’M LIVING IT EACH DAY!!! You don’t like it or think that I act like I think I’m better then you, then at the click of a button, you can move on the next post.
So with change comes more change. I am evolving into a better person…..thanks SANDY! That’s how I roll now.
First Sunday workout in a long time. I didn’t exercise at all Saturday. Therefore today I am doing weights, push-ups - my own bootcamp workout and yoga.
rock on!! you are too right. You are an amazing person. I have never once viewed your posts as being gloating. I admit to being envious of you but only in a positive “I am gonna get where she is” view.
If you sit around & worry what other people will think of you, then you aren’t being true to yourself. No one should be allowed to change who you are, what you do, etc…I am proud of you for standing up and putting your foot down. love u lady bug
I agree…let agree to evolve, not change.
Thanks Tiffany!
Well, it came to my attention that some people think that I’m here to gloat and it bothered me a lot. I’m glad my good friends don’t feel like that - thank you!
Oh my gosh, I got some Sandy love!! That is the perfect word “evolve”. Thank you.
I think inside, I think much like you, Nancy…I have always tried to do things that are the best for me…Its my life and if you dont like it, it doesnt matter…I am a fan of being who we are meant to be…However, I will say life has taught me to at least HEAR what someone has to say, whether it be good or bad…I then think over what they have to say…Sometimes I say “Okay, here is an opportunity for me to grow and change something about myself” or I might say “Nope, I have weighed all their thoughts, and I am still okay with myself”…This has worked well for me…I am still true to myself, my beliefs, whatever you want to call it…But I then leave the door open just a bit for my continued growth and improvement…I dont change because they suggested it…I change because after reviewing the information I decided that maybe I need tweaked! LOL…Anyway, Been away a while, and just catching up on some blogs!! Take care!!!
I can’t begin to tell you how happy this blog makes me. I have noticed for a while you have been different. Not bad, just not the same. I do, will love you no matter what but I what you to do what is right for you and what makes you happy. You deserve to be so very happy.
I have not once, ever, thought you gloated. I don’t get that one at all. If anything I feed off of your energy. I agree with Tiffany, the most I have felt is envious in a that’s who I want to be when I grow up kind of way.
Oh yeah, I forgot to add, the Wildcats are so very awesome.
I noticed too, I was like “what the heck is going on in Nancy’s life?!?!” but I am glad to see you are going to continue to write. I like knowing what is going on with ya~
I am going to work out today too. I didn’t get time yesterday either!
Hey how did you like zumba???
Great spirit! Evolution is a necessity for all of us.
I for one have never felt that you gloat in your blogs..and I can say that I have only felt amazement! One thing I know for sure from getting to know you through blogs and our team forum, is that you are a caring, & supportive friend.
Be proud of who you have become… No need to change for anyone..no matter what! You deserve to be happy. So you just keep doin’ your thing!!
I do want you to know that I appreciate everything you do for the Buddyslim world & for our SUPER TEAM “THE WILDCATS”!!!
Love you Nancy!
“Screw that crap! If people don’t like me for who I am, what I stand for and what I’m about, then that is there problem not mine!”
Nancy-sister, u hit the nail ont he head. We are nto here, whether it be here on BuddySlim or here in life in general, to please other people. We are here to live and experience life the best way we can — if everyone was meant to like and understand EVERYONE else, this would be ONe boring world, eh? U do a lot of sharing and educating and supporting—more than anyone, for sure — u don’t have to do that—u choose to do it so u can share what has worked for u—u invested and contiue to—alot of time and effort–way more than I am capable of—so I commend u
and CONTINUE to be proud of yourself and all u accomplish—pride is positive and if someone sees it as anything differently, then they are NOT doing this THING themselves! I will NEVER sell myself short whether it be educational, scholastic or weightloss achievements—just in case my achievements may make someone else feel badly—100% of the time healthy success stories are motivating—so YAY for you xoxoxxo~~~
Oh Nancy! You are so right on. We have to be ourselves, no matter what anyone thinks! These are OUR blogs, OUR journals, we can write what we feel! If someone doesn’t like what we right then I say NEXT!!! You stay true to yourself, I have never, ever thought you were gloating, we all need to be able to share the good and the bad in our lives. You are completely honest and open and that makes you rock!!! Love you sooooo much!
I don’t know who thought you were gloating, but they obviously have not taken the time to get to know you. Their loss.
You inspire me and are a great supportive friend! You’re a treasure.
You be true to you and if someone doesn’t like it, that’s their problem.
OH MY GOD!! Dawn is back!!!!!!!! Gotta go check out your blog!!!
Holly, was I that obvious?
I will tell you about Zumba. 
Tina! Gotta love my Tina love!
THANK YOU GUYS!!
Evolve is good…I like my old Nancy! ‘Nancy The Spit Fire’
I like your blogs about working out and eating and everything because I learn so much!
Hey we are doing our weights the same day!
What Gloat…!?? Who says this about you?
So what if you were to Gloat or Boost about yourself Nancy you’ve worked your ass off to get where you are (no pun intended Rod LOL) and I don’t think or feel that you talking about your life or you workouts and goals is gloating!!! Not by a long shot.
Nancy,
I’m new here and I already luv ya!! You are the greatest cheerleader I know!! The energy you put into lifting others up is amazing. I don’t get the gloating thing - to me you are an inspiration!
Good for you!!!! Yay, Nancy - keeping it real!
Nancy, I am glad you spoke your mind. It is so easy for many of us to just continue to be people pleasers. You do not gloat. I have been reading the responses to your blog and I hope you see that your true friends like you for you. I admire you for giving so much time and energy to buddyslim.
Always stay true to yourself. You’re one amazing person. luv ya!!
I love you and your blog. It is always so good to read. I can’t stop and you are never full of yourself. If I looked like you, I might, but you are kind and encouraging. We all love reading you. Thank you Thank you, Sherry
i dont really know the meanind of gloat . never heard anyone use it but it sounds like im glad i dont know what it means. i love you nancy you have halped me a ton!
So did you and Rod talk about what we talked about at breakfast Wed morning?????????????? I hope you’re feeling better now. (((((((Nancy)))))) Miss you!!
OH Nancy, I love you for you. You are a true inspiration and I have never thought you to be Miss popular. I love how you put everything out there and help all of us everday. Keep doing everything for you, don’t worry about others.
Great blog Nancy. You should never have to change who you are for other people, because then you’re obviously not being yourself. That’s no way to live. And sure, you cant please everyone all the time… but so what…. people dont please you all of the time either!
Keep up the great work girlie!!!
Thanks for this post Nancy - I hope you don’t stop telling us all about your accomplishments - I call those MOTIVATION for me to get my rear in gear. Your enthusiasm is infectious and you are a natural leader in that regard. Thanks for the booster note too - you’re a great buddy
Hummm I never once thought you gloat! Very odd someone would see it that way.
I LOVE reading your blogs- some days its just what I needed to get my butt OFF the couch lol!
Hey Nancy! Love ya girl. I didn’t read all the responses cuz I have a killer headache but I never took you as gloating. You know don’t you that it is the jealous people who criticize? They do, cuz they wanna make themselves feel better.