Why all the hoopla about “support”? My take & you don’t have to read it! V20 Pics
Recently, as I know my buddy Kerstin wrote about it and I’ve seen numerous times, people keeps asking “what about me?” I did my part, I participated and I did what I can for buddyslim, how come I’m not getting some back?
Honestly, and I can’t speak for ANYONE, NO ONE, other then myself. I believe that the last few months has been slow in terms of support. But you know, as the saying goes, you get what you put in!!!!!
And one of the reasons why I started taking some time off from this site. At least 1 day a week. I would spend hours and hours on end here, supporting as many blogs as I can and I was involved in more then 6 forums at a time.
BLOGS SUPPORT Then and Now
What is different for blog support for me.
I used to and still read the daily blogger’s blog like Holly, Becky, Kerstin, Kama, Marie, Dagny, Jacki’s, Lace is back to it, Jessica, Jessie, Nisey, Loni, Poetry, Tina’s…etc and so many others.
But along the way I notice that there are some people who consistently supports me. YOU Can call it a CLIQUE if you want! I hear it all the time. The truth is they are the same people who’s I supported from the beginning AND THEY ALWAYS SUPPORTED ME! I always support old members who return and stay and I support new blogs.
You get to know these people. Like how RB now has a name Becky. And Holly’s struggle with food addiction such as mine and I love seeing new pics of Dagny as she shrinks. Yes, I know a lot about them. You can’t take that away from us!!! We are going to be there for one another just like we have in the past. Yes, we don’t always see eye to eye on issues, but hey, we respect each other and will always be there for one another.
Blogging these days
I find that I can spend ALL my time supporting some people and they don’t care to even say hi or even get to know me. Now, why should I bother getting to know more about them? Why? They don’t care about me! It’s all about give and take. Don’t expect me to read 15 of your blogs and say hi to you and you can’t say hi to me once! Therefore, I started skipping out on their blogs just like they do mine! Sad but the truth for me at least.
New bloggers - I support as many new buddyslimmers and new bloggers as I can. Some people I hit it off with and some I don’t. That’s just how it rolls.
Forums
I used to be involved in a lot of forums but as I noted before, I decided it’s in my best interest to have a life outside of buddyslim. Therefore I needed to cut out many forums and thank you forum buddies for taking it in stride. The one and only forum I’m committed to is the WILDCATS, well, it’s simple - they are my friends and my team mates. They have always been there for me. As I support them as team leader it is also my obligation to support their journal/blog as I do now.
My conclusion to all this, many people stay and many people leave and come back. It’s easier to stick with those who are dedicated to this lifestyle and makes buddyslim a second home. Those people, for the exception of a few, I stick with because I am a dedicated and loyal friend.
Whew!!! What a mouthful! You don’t have to agree with me. But if you do say anything negative, I’m deleting. My journal - it’s all about support for me! As I do yours! Honestly, if you don’t like me or don’t care to get to know me, then don’t expect for me to do the same. This is my thoughts and my thoughts only.
Monday night - it’s all about my crew for kickboxing and yoga!!!!!!!!!! WHOO HOO!!
Oh, and for those who wants to see pics from Rod’s B-day at V20: It was very hot! LITERALLY!!! 
hi sorry i kinda read through the blog quickly…you know your skinny when you can pull off wearing white!!!!!!!! you look great!!!!!!!
sexy sexy people I see there in the pictures. wow you guys were a hot bunch. ALL of you
and boy those are some short skirts but me love. I am sure as did rod LOL
i agree with your support blog and like I told you I support new people and the ones who are there for me. That is it.. I try for a certain time then I quit if I do not get anything back. Life is too short to stress over it. i thought at first what is wrong with me because people do not respond. well some people are selfish people and I do not need to surround myself with them. i stick to people who are giving and caring like I think I am and be happy. I am mostly a positive person and would like to stay that way and when i realized i was getting sad about not getting what I put in I made changes and I LOVE it.
People who do not want to get to know us well that is their loss. i won’t ever stress over it again … we rock they miss out haha..
love ya chicka and you looked hot hot hot
sexy sexy people I see there in the pictures. wow you guys were a hot bunch. ALL of you
and boy those are some short skirts but me love. I am sure as did rod LOL
i agree with your support blog and like I told you I support new people and the ones who are there for me. That is it.. I try for a certain time then I quit if I do not get anything back. Life is too short to stress over it. i thought at first what is wrong with me because people do not respond. well some people are selfish people and I do not need to surround myself with them. i stick to people who are giving and caring like I think I am and be happy. I am mostly a positive person and would like to stay that way and when i realized i was getting sad about not getting what I put in I made changes and I LOVE it.
People who do not want to get to know us well that is their loss. i won’t ever stress over it again … we rock they miss out haha..
love ya chicka and you looked hot hot hot
oops double posting uppsie
did I tell ya you look got mamma sia
THANKS Kerstin! LOL! You are too funny!
love the last picture of you and Rod!!!!!
Nancy, I haven’t been here as long as you and I have seen many people come and go already in the 8 months I have been hear (6 really) at first I just spyed, lol.
You are a wonderful support to so many, Thank you for that. AND you are right the more you get involved the more you get back, it is a two way street here
Very HOT pics
I completely understand where you are coming from girl. I try to read as many blogs as I can and support as many as possible. I hope I was not the one you were talking about. I always look forward to reading your blogs and see the new pics. You are an inspiration. Thanks again and keep it up girl.
Hi Keyonna - thanks for the love.
Nope, not talking about any one person, just notice similar blogs going up and I wanted to add my two cents. 
Awesome photos! You look great!!
This is interesting as Im a new blogger to buddy slim really .
Well all I can say is that Im not really into cliques.
I came on to tell everyone my journey without expecting anything. I blog in the hopes maybe it might inspire someone out there. If i can be supportive I will be but I never expect that in return I know I did my part in the support .
Now there are people on here who might not know really what to do. I read so many blogs on here already some I relate too some I dont. I respond to the ones I obviously relate too.
Even though I know everyone on here is going through the same similiar journey. I really dont knwo who or what type of people these are this is the internet foremost .but the ones that do support me I cherish them and do the same back sometimes they come and go cause life happens but i still leave my door open and never turn away.
Ima true believer in whatsgoes around comes around.
I havent had time to read everyones post or blog but i try… and i also respong to all my questions it may not be as fast as some but i respond no matter .
That whats make this sort of interesting cause in the you tube community it is the same thing
people do get their feelings hurt when they dont get quetions answered or support or sometimes the person who is making the video get to darn big in the head . i just brush it off and move on its not worth my time really. thats why in the you tube community you have to be real careful about that
Im new here so I dont know but real life has changes people are in and out so that is no different here.
Just stay tru to you the tru supporters will still be tru to you as well just stay the same to them.
to those that like to take take take
be careful cause karma is a bitch…
the same friends you meet on the way up are the same you will down…
so everyone should be more considerate even if it just to say hi .
BTW YOU LOOK GREAT IM NOT ON BUDDY SLIM ALOT mainly to post my blog and answer any questions I have and be there for those who want me to be there and those who are there for me new friends and old
I have been blessed to meet some nice people on here I just hope to meet some more
hey all that i know is Im here no matter I have a job to do on me
Hey girlie, I’m totally with you on the support thing. I support everyone who comments on my blogs. You get what you give right? And with the new Buddyslimmers - I support those I feel a conenction with, that share the same struggles as I do, because I feel I know what they’re going through. There have been a lot of new Buddyslimmers coming on here looking for the “wrong” type fo support, Support for an unhealthy way to lose weight. I’ve learnt to bite my tongue in those cases and not bother commenting at all.
Oh and those pictures…. you are smokin’ girlie!!!
Nancy, you look AMAZING in those pics! I love that outfit.
Looks like Rod had a great birthday!
I’m not on here as much as I used to be either, but I try to support as many blogs as I can when I do stop by, be they old or new. I certainly appreciate all the support you’ve given me since I joined, and that’s the main reason your blog is one of the first I check out when I log in.
Nice pics you are looking quite buff. I agree about support I do not write blogs but, I read most of them everyday and comment when I have something to add. I see someone is struggling I write them personally.
Woo-hoo, that outfit is smoking, you look great. I feel the same way, I try to support as much as being supported. It is definitely a balancing act. But, I love me some Buddy Slim!
1st LOVE the outfit!
2nd well I dont comment on all blogs.. why? Well I only comment if I have something to add. If its already been said I dont feel then need to say the same thing as someone else LOL.
Unless its a congrats! Then I add them to everyone who needs it!! You can never have to many of those!!!
Nancy, you are dead on. I felt like I hadn’t talked to my family when my computer was down for those few weeks. I felt so bad, like I was hurting each and every wildcat personally. : / But I have always tried to keep up with my buddies and show them love and support because that’s what this site is for! But the other day I was looking at “My Buddies” and I thought “How many of these people actually talk to me?” I wanted to go through them and weed them out… is that horrible?
You look incredible!! When I was here, a year ago, I remember reading your struggle (humor!)…You’ve done great things for yourself.
Ignore the immaturity. People are on this website for HELP for THEMSELVES. This isn’t high school.
Great pics! You and Rod look so cute together!
I agree, you get what you give on here. What more is there to say?
Love ur pics ! I don’t know what to add about the support thing. I know that when I first started blogging, you were one of the first people to offer me support and I have been buddies with you ever since ! I have found that daily blogging, well almost daily blogging
, has been one of the keys to my success. I can’t ever leave. I need u guys. I need u guys for sanity and I need livestrong to log my calories and probably forver, til death do us part. Have a GREAT week, Nancy 
You all look great! Yes, I agree Nancy! It’s true. You get what you give. Sometimes you gotta give a little more, but in the giving you are receiving. I know that I have selfish motives when I am supporting others. It feels good to try and help someone. They may not want my help or appreciate my help but it all comes back because when I need some help there’s someone willing to help me with a nice comment or telling me that they have my back.
I admire you Nancy because I feel you give this site 3000% everyday! I don’t know how you do it and have a job and a life at all! You are great and I have told you before that you bring a lot of success to buddyslim. Just by being here, you help so many of us. I look to you as a mentor, an inspiration as do many of us buddies.
I have noticed that nothing comes to me. I know. I tried it. I sat in buddyslim for a year, waiting for the weightloss to come grab me but it did not. I gained 20 lbs waiting. You have to reach out for it and go for it.
If someone wants to lose weight, you can’t wish for the weight to come off, you gotta have action. Part of the action is the support we give each other. I love the support I get so I try to be supportive back. Truly too, it involves a lot of introspection too and continuous self inventory and making changes. If someone feels that they are not deriving anything from buddyslim, ask yourself what are you giving to buddyslim?
You all look great! Yes, I agree Nancy! It’s true. You get what you give. Sometimes you gotta give a little more, but in the giving you are receiving. I know that I have selfish motives when I am supporting others. It feels good to try and help someone. They may not want my help or appreciate my help but it all comes back because when I need some help there’s someone willing to help me with a nice comment or telling me that they have my back.
I admire you Nancy because I feel you give this site 3000% everyday! I don’t know how you do it and have a job and a life at all! You are great and I have told you before that you bring a lot of success to buddyslim. Just by being here, you help so many of us. I look to you as a mentor, an inspiration as do many of us buddies.
I have noticed that nothing comes to me. I know. I tried it. I sat in buddyslim for a year, waiting for the weightloss to come grab me but it did not. I gained 20 lbs waiting. You have to reach out for it and go for it.
If someone wants to lose weight, you can’t wish for the weight to come off, you gotta have action. Part of the action is the support we give each other. I love the support I get so I try to be supportive back. Truly too, it involves a lot of introspection too and continuous self inventory and making changes. If someone feels that they are not deriving anything from buddyslim, ask yourself what are you giving to buddyslim?
heh, I’ve seen it at every site - people always want the responces to their thoughts, and as many as possible. It’s natural.
I dunno if it should help anyone, but I find that most support I get from the site comes from reading and commenting on other people blogs. It might sound backwards, but just knowing other folks struggling with similar or completely different problems and saying a few things to them is what holds me afloat. And it’s getting out of my own littl’ weight loss mindset that I appreciate about it.
Plus, participating in the 2 daily accountability challenges I have time for.
Not that I mind folks replying to my blogs, of course. It’s just the other way around is just as rewarding and I can engage into it as much or as little as I want to, independently of other folks time contsraints and interest in my littl’ world.
HEYO sexy mamacita! Love the pics and glad to see you’re still on track and showing love to all slimmers out here.
First of all, let me say the pics are gorgeous!
Secondly, I have to agree. Its difficult to get to know someone if they aren’t responding.My advice to ppl would be to keep at it. Add new people…reply to ppl’s blogs that arent even in your buddy list…just generally be a good buddy!
Love those photos, Nancy! Y’all look good!
I love seeing pics of the two of you together. You guys look great and happy! I support basically the same way you do, girl. We can’t do it all and gotta have lives of our own outside of here.
look at you HOT MAMA!!!! you look so good!!!
and i agree with you there is no point to continuesly waste minutes that add up to hours to support people that dont even acknowledge your efforts
even a THANK YOU! is nice!!
i send out boosters either once every two weeks or sooner, and its funny how ill send them out to like 80 people and ill get maybe 10 thank yous. not that i really care, i just notice it. and its the same people that appreciate them.
so i think ill take some inspiration from you and go delete some buddies
Totally agree with you girl!! Love these photos look at how fine you all are, DAMN GIRL!!!:)
Let me start off by saying, “NANCY, YOU LOOK MARVELOUS DARLING!!!”. What is this wildcats team I keep reading about. What are the teams?
Hiya hun,
Sorry I don’t you but I agree with everything that you have to say however for some people logging in here every day is very difficult!! Due to working as a doctor I can barely get on once or twice a week but I do offer support when I can and love to read the blogs as it gives an incentive into peoples lives and how they are getting on.
Like yours its nice to some positive pictures and I have to say you look blooming amazing!!
Well done
Having only been involved with this for two weeks now, I can say that it is helpful when people you don’t know support you. From your pictures it is obvious that you are working hard. You look great and know I’ll always give you my support.
Amen! I like to get and give support. But when I hear nothing but crickets, it’s frustrating. Fortunately for me - I get drive-by comments from you now and again, so I know someone is out there and cheering me on. So, I’ll delurk to say a big “thank you” and to commit to giving you a quick “hi” more often when I do read your blog
I’ve mentioned this before but I will repeat myself. Mostly cause I can’t think of anything else to say.
If you had given up on me I would not be on buddyslim anymore. You made me realize people do want my support, even if I’m a big ole mess. I know when I first started blogging, I thought when someone commented and I commented on my blog back they would get a notification or something. Well I was definitely wrong. So then I tried to thank people in my next blog. I have to tell you the day I finally sent you an email was soooo hard. I was really nervous thinking she has so many buddies she is going to think I’m such a dork but I really want to thank her. That day changed my life.
So I hope you remember that when you get too frustrated. While I know you deserve all the support you give, sometimes you are making a huge impact and may not know it.
I also know you are a smart girl and can probably tell the difference between shy or newbie and just plain old selfish.
Also you look gorgeous in your pictures. If only Rod wasn’t such tough competition………
Thanks for mentioning me! Sometimes I am too tired to reply back to everyone who replies on my blog, but I try to reply on theirs if I see them. But I do tend to notice who comments and I’m more likely to click on those people’s blogs.
Great pictures!
First of all, you look fantastic!!! I totally get you. I used to try and read every blog. But I just can’t, and yes we all have gotten to know each other, and we are friends and we support each other. I do think we need to focus on support rather than being over busy in here.
Hey Nancy, Smokin’ pics. You do look fantastic. Good blog. I’m still new here and have appreciated your support though I feel it’s been easy to fall off the band wagon & back onto the food cart, as I was telling jessie. I really admire your success and hope that someday SOON I can make weight loss and health into a lifestyle and not the torture and stuggle it is right now. You are a great role model here and You make a difference in my Life! Support on…
You are one hot mamacita!!! You and Rod are one sexy couple. I agree with you. If someone takes the time to support even a simple thanks or hello would be nice.
Your sister and you are SO fit! Holy crap!
You and your cool LA style