I asked 4 advice, got it and applied it! I refuse to be a victim in weight loss and in LIFE!!!
LOL I can’t remember how many nights I fought but it’s over 21 nights now. .. no night time eating not one morsel. I’ve had temptation thrown in my face and I defeated each and every time.
Monday night was a good night. I got home from the gym after an hour of hardcore kickboxing but skipped yoga, ate a yummy Khmer beef and celery sour soup with rice and took off to the movie for movie night. We saw District 9…..ummm not for the faint of heart. I snacked on Pumpkin seeds and ate just 1/3 of the bag. Oh had my fave some ice coffee. Yummy. In the past I come home and eat! But last night I came home, drank some water and went to bed. Well, if I ate, I owe Rod $100 and why would I want to do that! 
The saying is true, give yourself 3+ weeks to create a new habit. It will stick, just don’t give up.
Tonight I’m going to Pilates and my first weight class in what seem like months!
I’ve decided recently, yesterday that I’m taking another step in self preservation. If I have nothing nice to say, I’m not going to say it at all. If something bothers me, I’m going to honest, not talk behind that person’s back - let them know exactly how I feel and respect that person enough to let it be. I can not make anyone see something they fail to see. I’m not captain save a ho’……the only person I can save is me.
We all make choices, whatever decision I make I stand by it. BUT I know that if 997 PEOPLE OUT OF 1000 sings the same song, aka - don’t write to the ex NANCY,not a good idea…….I take it and applied it to life. THANK YOU - I decided to let it be and let by gone be by gone. I guess that is something that makes me different now. I’m more then willing to take criticism and apply it to my life. Does it hurt a bit? Of course!!!!! But if I ask for advice, I better be able to deal and take it like a big girl! What’s the point of seeking advice from your peers if you have no intention of doing anything with it? I won’t be a hypocrite!!!!! I asked for help, I received it and I applied it.
That’s why if someone bullsh** with me, I refuse to indulge in it. Self pity - I’m trying to get past my self pity days. I’m done. I just want to take action and keep pushing to the next venture, next obstacle - tackle that bullshi* and keep on going. Life is not always beautiful but each of us is in charge of our happiness!
I REFUSE TO BE A VICTIM YESTERDAY, TODAY OR TOMORROW!! I did it in the past but no more!!! I REFUSE TO BE A VICTIM ON THIS JOURNEY AND LIFE! Too much time is spent playing woe is me games. I have zero time to waste on my self pity. I wipe my tears and keep fighting back! A victim’s role is an easy role, a fighter’s role that’s hard because the chance of failing is very high. I take 5 days of failure to one day of being a victim. I’m done with it. If it makes me seem harsh - oh well, it’s my life and I hold myself accountable for every action I make. I won’t blame other’s for my shortcomings! It’s not Rodney’s fault, not my mom’s but my own. I’m a grown woman - why would I blame others for what I decide to do? NO - I refuse to be a victim!
Ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh WILDFIRE - she took control of me but I’m not going to delete this blog. Gotta let it stand for what it is.
District 9 was odd, wasn’t it? I still don’t know how I feel about it… working on self-pity is one of my new goals too. It’s just not worth your self esteem. Keep it up Nancy, and thanks for sharing your journey. : )
Good for you Nancy!
I’m really glad you took the advice you asked for… not always an easy thing to do. Great blog!
You are an inspiration - love the attitude - it is hard work, but worth it - you have come so far - congrats!
Love it Nancy….reading that gave me goosebumps from head to toe!!!
Good for you on all accounts. you are a hero!
I think I like wildfire sometimes.
There are just times we need to be brutally honest; especially with ourselves. I am queen of lying to myself and justifying my actions. I am working so hard now on not being my own victim. It isn’t easy but it feels good to fight. Great job on the nighttime eating. I’m testing your 21 day theory with my cereal. Love ya, girl.
You go, girl!!!! I love your raw honesty and refreshing truthful words that we can all live by.
“I REFUSE TO BE A VICTIM YESTERDAY, TODAY OR TOMORROW!! I did it in the past but no more!!! I REFUSE TO BE A VICTIM ON THIS JOURNEY AND LIFE!
Those are powerful words! Words we should all live by. Thank you for your fabulous blog! I’m glad you decided not to contact the ex. My ex did me many wrongs (and owes me thousands of dollars), but I took my friends’ advice (and Martin’s) and just let it be. Otherwise it would interfere with the current great relationship I have (just like you do) and it would open up a lot of drama and who knows what else (my ex was into drugs, verbally abusive, non loving, etc).
So, I’m very happy to read that you’re going to just move on. I have never looked back, and I feel like I have the closure I need.
Have a fabulous day!
You go, girl!!!! I love your raw honesty and refreshing truthful words that we can all live by.
“I REFUSE TO BE A VICTIM YESTERDAY, TODAY OR TOMORROW!! I did it in the past but no more!!! I REFUSE TO BE A VICTIM ON THIS JOURNEY AND LIFE!
Those are powerful words! Words we should all live by. Thank you for your fabulous blog! I’m glad you decided not to contact the ex. My ex did me many wrongs (and owes me thousands of dollars), but I took my friends’ advice (and Martin’s) and just let it be. Otherwise it would interfere with the current great relationship I have (just like you do) and it would open up a lot of drama and who knows what else (my ex was into drugs, verbally abusive, non loving, etc).
So, I’m very happy to read that you’re going to just move on. I have never looked back, and I feel like I have the closure I need.
Have a fabulous day!
Good blog Nancy. It’s easy to ask for advice, not so easy to take it. Just like a compliment…we all ask constantly for compliments (maybe not verbally, but in many other ways) and when we get them? Not easy to just say ‘thank you’ after a lifetime of putting ourselves down. Only when we start to grow in confidence can we accept the opinions of others. When we have no self-confidence other peoples opinions often make us react defensively. I am also happy to see you decided against ‘raking up those old coals’.
Holy cow, woman, you just charge the space with that energy! A totally awsome blog, and an asbsolutely great rule of never being a victim!
Funny, yesterday night I had the first case ever of being awake with hunger at midnight… I didn’t snack, and managed to fall asleep over it. Usually I fall asleep the moment my head touches the pillow, but TOM and half a cup of coffee yesterday morning made me a bit restless… One thing I know for certain - the earlier I go to bed, the less likely I am to have an after-dinner snack…
Nancy, you are proof-positive that we keep learning, growing and changing on this journey, no matter what our weight or clothing size is! It’s all about loving ourselves and knowing how much we are capable of, and how strong we are. Keep on keepin’ on, Woman!
Nancy, I really don’t know you, but love you. You are an inspiration to all of us. What an awesome way to live life. Glad you learned this now. You can go on living life and being happy. Have a fanctastic day.
Awesome!!! I agree, if you’re going to write a blog asking for guidance and help, then turn around and say, Oh I will take all of your comments to heart and thing about it… what’s the friggin point? GOOD GRIEF ALL READY!!! You’re not happy with your situation then DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT! Don’t just say you’ll think about it!! Want the pesky boyfriend/roommate out of your life? YES YOU CAN JUST GO HOME ONE NIGHT AND TELL THEM TO LEAVE!! Especially if you’ve already given them chance after chance after chance!!! And if you’re not gonna take the advice given, then just don’t ask for it! We’re here to help, support and love you no matter what, but if you’re only going to do the woe is me thing, I just don’t want to hear it anymore. YOU change your life.
Good job Nancy,
Thanks for being so open and honest with us here. Through that you teach us all.
I know I don’t alway comment but I do read your blogs and they are always open and honest and full of energy. I am glad to hear you follow the advice.
It’s a great load lifter when you finally say what you are thinking. Thanks for doing that today. And your 21 day theory, I am starting mine today. I am going to work as hard as you in my honesty while blogging here. Thanks!
Over 21 days of no night time eating. You in spire me mama.
I try that too.. not being a victim. I am not saying I won’t be sad or upset but I know I have to get over it and move on. Which I think I am accomplishing. I also try to be honest and if I ask for advice I need to learn to take the good with the bad. But then you hardly see me ask for advice because I am not sure how I will take it.. it is a learning thing..
you my friend rock not eating after 10 for 21 days waahooo
Nancy you are such a mature woman and a great inspiration to us all. You stand your ground and hold your head high through every step of life. I remember when I first came on this site you came off as a cold heartless b (love you) but now I can say that after reading more and more I realize that you have ever right to jump in and interject because you are this site’s greatest success story. Now I see you as a warm caring b (love you) and respect you more than you’ll ever know. Take care today Wildfire!
One more thing I thought of….obviously it takes maturity to take advice, that must be why our kids don’t always listen. lol
Wow girl that was deep and great. What a great blog? I love it. Keep up the good work.
Taking advice is hard to do but it makes you gain others views and I think it’s important.
Good work on the movie! I have been bad when I’m at the movies recently…
I love Wildfire! You need to give me some of that Nancy when I’m slumping girlie. Keep it up.
Great job on the no nighttime eating ! Now, Ms. Wildfire I think we need to remember that, all habits take time to break and begin, not just ones related to weightloss and food
It took me SEVEN years of people telling me to get rid of my ex… I knew it was bad, I knew I was miserable. I kept thinking he would change and that I couldnt live here on my own. But one day, it clicked! Old habits die hard 
Love ya girl ~~~
Great job on the no nighttime eating ! Now, Ms. Wildfire I think we need to remember that, all habits take time to break and begin, not just ones related to weightloss and food
It took me SEVEN years of people telling me to get rid of my ex… I knew it was bad, I knew I was miserable. I kept thinking he would change and that I couldnt live here on my own. But one day, it clicked! Old habits die hard 
Love ya girl ~~~
‘Life is not always beautiful but each of us is in charge of our happiness!’
I love it! Great attitude!
Really great attitude. I think many of us will get on board with this idea. I said this to someone else but I think it is relevant. I think some of the people come on here and ask for advice. Problem is; they don’t really want our advice. They only wanna hear from people who think and act just like them. It is those people that you can only offer your thoughts and advice. When the tantrum like a little kid back away.
I think you have an awesome attitude that I hope spreads like wildfire though out this community.
awesome blog girl. love ya!
wow you are on a roll girl!