Why do some people like to criticize of others? Got nothing to say to me until u walk in my shoes; 2 hrs down; 2 more to go!!

Why are some people so he** bent over on controlling others?  It’s THEIR LIFE!! Let them live it!!!  Who are you to sit and criticize others?  Especially when you don’t know of their personal trials and tribulations?  Who are you to point out and call them out on things they’ve talk about?

I’m sorry!  AH, I’ve worked almost every single work day since I was 18 yrs old and never once did I depend on anyone even my mama to take care of me!!!   I am an independent woman - always is and always will be.  Everything I have - I bought other then gifts!  My bills - I pay them!! With my hard earn money!!!  No, I don’t get the luxury of spending days on end at home to go to the gym whenever I want.  I don’t have time for hobbies other then the few hours after work.  I have never had the fun of being a stay home anything!  Only time I get to do nothing is on the weekend and occasional holidays.

My relationship is full of respect.  Never once do one of us do things that are not mindful or considerate of the other.  He is my partner and soon, when all the flags are lined up and he gets his green card, finish school, we will turn the tables around.  Until then we are doing our best to make it happen.  I’m very happy with my relationship.

If you truly want to talk about someone, make  sure you know of their situation first!  I get tired of relatives who hear snippits about my life and start in on me about what’s best for me!  Go wipe your own butt!  Until you truly take the time and invest in me, then you got nothing to say to me unless I came to you for an earpiece!

Just realized I vent about random things! LOL!  OK, PENT UP ANGER GONE!   None of it makes sense to me! bahhhh hahahahaha

I ended up doing my own weightlift routine an hr before yoga.  That’s 2 hrs down and 2 more hours to go this evening.  I’m tying in a different kickboxing class to the Pilates tonight.  I think I’ll even swim if I have some time.

Food wise - eating good stuff all day!!!!  Munching on some cherries I bought for $1 a lb at the grocery store.

MY DON’T COME ON MY BLOG DISCLAIMER: THIS ISN’T ABOUT ANY OF YOU!! DO NOT THINK I’M PERSONALLY TALKING ABOUT YOU!! I DON’T KNOW WHY IT HAPPENS!  BUT IT’S MY LIFE, MY JOURNAL AND I’M TALKING ABOUT THINGS THAT HAPPENED TO ME WITH MY FAMILY.  SO IF YOU THINK YOU ARE IN MY BLOG - AIN’T ABOUT YOU!

27 Comments so far

  1. Lori @ July 2nd, 2009

    good job with your eating Nancy, it feels great doesnt it?

    WOW Enjoy your swim, think of me?

  2. kerstinaparton @ July 2nd, 2009

    wow let it out sweetie let it out..
    As for the cherries holy cow.. I paid 3 per pound I am officially very jealous of where you live. Cherries are my favorite. I had some last night 2 full servings so 260 grams.. YUMMMYYY
    I hope you are okay now aft eryou let your vent out.. I know I did today.. I hate when people critize me too and knowing nothing about me. I feel it is rude.. Sharing an opinion ONE thing. .. okay done ranting with you.

  3. grapeape @ July 2nd, 2009

    Hmmm. I don’t know exactly what this vent is about, but let it out!!!! I know you guys have a happy, respectful relationship. Good for you! Rob and I are happy too and though there are bumps in the road, they are minor. No one knows your life, but you. Girl, I’m with ya! I barely have time to think somedays between my school, madi’s school, my nursing club and sorority, madi’s sports, clubs, swim lessons, housework, homework, my workouts,oh yeah, and I have a job too!! ha ha! Isn’t life hectic?! Love ya hon!!

  4. kerstinaparton @ July 2nd, 2009

    me again LOL
    if someone judged you because of your relationship SCREW them.. how do they know you and Rod. Every relationship is different and it is about mutual respect. like yesterday with the ice cream… it is not his problem he needs to eat… As you know I am in the same boat..
    People have judged me and tony because we fight like cats and dogs but are still so super in love as if it was day one.. Oh well my life not theirs..
    thanks for the blog love too sweetie it means a lot to me when you comment I know how busy you are…and mine being the first of the day. HA made me happy
    As for living up your vacation WAAAAAHOOOOOOO
    live it up… live it up you deserve it so much

  5. khmerbeauty @ July 2nd, 2009

    Right on Kerstin! :)

    Some stuff came up with my family and friends. You know how it is…people talk and always have smack to say. Yet, them same people tries to be just like me!!! The audacity to sit and criticize me and then try to copy cat everything I do!

    Found out people talked behind my back and thinks negatively of my Rod and I’m not for it!

    Shoot, their crap stinks as much as mines!

  6. beckyboo @ July 2nd, 2009

    Get it grll !

  7. beckyboo @ July 2nd, 2009

    Get it grll !

  8. beckyboo @ July 2nd, 2009

    Why twice ??? O well… Anywho, I LOVE when the gangsta comes out in u ;)

  9. kerstinaparton @ July 2nd, 2009

    sounds to me the ones who talked crap about you have too much time on their hands maybe they should go to the gym as much as you.. Family.. am I glad I have none around

  10. kyliejo @ July 2nd, 2009

    oh that thing stole my comment…well it’s been deleting them lately so I said…

    haha you and your venting!! Got to love it
    Also, I want to move to CA so I can get cherries for a dollar a pound!

  11. leezimaj @ July 2nd, 2009

    The blog caught my attention and had to reply. I have been there….It’s because you are an independent woman. Jealousy is a disease…
    Just stay strong….
    Take Care.

    Lz

  12. Raytchaelle @ July 2nd, 2009

    Seems to me when people are trash talking others it’s either from jealousy or as someone else said, they have too much time on their hands! Good thing you (and all of us) have this place to vent! It’s fast become an important part of my day… anywho,,, you’re right, no one has any right to judge you or anyone else. Be strong, be proud, and most important- be YOU! :D

  13. chelleybones @ July 2nd, 2009

    First of all let me say… I loved the disclaimer since this seems to be a revolving issue! I had the same problem not too long ago about my boyfriend’s mom and grandma calling me fat and a horrible mother. Who are they to judge us? I hope you stood up for yourself to them and didn’t waste all that fiestiness on us… rip them a new one! I confronted my guy’s mom and grandma to realize in the end they are a bunch of jealous women! You rock Nancy and as always your body is bangin’! I wish I looked as petite as you!

  14. shashyah @ July 3rd, 2009

    YAH!!!! *hmph*

  15. swalose75 @ July 3rd, 2009

    Nancy, you said they want to be like you because the copy what you do. I think that says it all. They are JEALOUS!!!!!!!! The only way to make them feel better (because they are not as good as you) is to trash you.
    Try to let it roll of your back Hun. YOU know you are a GOOD person :D (and so do we)

  16. lessinayear @ July 3rd, 2009

    Isn’t venting what a blog is for? Sucks that folks don’t have enough going in their own lives that they can’t stay out of people’s business. But you know, karma’s a b1tch, and what goes around comes around… I think some people have a hard time seeing other people happy. I say go to kickboxing and picture those people’s faces! ;) Happy 4th weekend - you and Rod enjoy!

  17. meltingaway @ July 3rd, 2009

    I have never understood why people try to control someone else’s life when there own life is a steaming pile of crap. You know you have a good man and he loves you, that is all that is important. I hope to find the same someday. Keep up the great work and enjoy your weekend. And vent anytime, it is always better to let it out than eat the emotions away.

  18. skinnychris @ July 3rd, 2009

    SCREAM it ladybug! This is about you, not us. If someone finds themselves in this blog then they need to back up!

    Glad you got it off your chest, we all come across those type of people. Always know better than we do. Really, think you do? Then how about I come live you life while you are running mine you nosey Rosey!

    Bet that will shut ‘em up! Have a super weekend!!!

  19. ready2bskinE @ July 3rd, 2009

    I think all the reasons above for someone being judgmental are right on! Also, a lot of the time, peoples judgments are more about their own lives than the person they’re projecting them on. For example, if a person feels used by their spouse, they will project that on other people. “Oh, he does that too? He must be using you, too.” Or like in Chelley bones case, those women must know a bit too much about what a bad mother acts like (personal experience?) so if she did one tiny thing they associated with that, she automatically becomes the hot topic. A person like me, who has (thankfully!) been treated generally well, tends to always think the best of people, even when they don’t deserve it. It’s a two way street, and people with negative outlooks unfortunately have negative judgments most of the time. It’s easier to overlook them when you think of it that way, at least for me, because then I tend to feel sorry for the person instead of mad. (It must suck to go through life feeling used, or like a victim… or to feel guilty about what type of mother you were/are, or to live with the knowledge that you didn’t have a good mother. Cuz that seems to be the position those women are coming from… to me. But I’m just on the outside looking in.) ;)

    Hope you have a GREAT holiday weekend girl!

  20. easybreezy @ July 3rd, 2009

    Those cherries sound very yummy :]

    Sorry to hear about the disrespect people are giving you.

  21. Shakeyolonbon44 @ July 3rd, 2009

    i actually know your writing about me. :)

    haha
    jk

    LOVE YA girlie. i know what ya mean. i think its when people feel so out of control in their own lives, that they must try to chime in on everything and take control.
    but you are not a toy for someone to play with. tell them to f off!

  22. poetry4lyf @ July 3rd, 2009

    I thought I was going to have to hunt down some folks on buddyslim and do some butt kicking but if you need me to drive out to Cali and take care of some pesky family members, I got you!

  23. LittleFlower @ July 3rd, 2009

    Get it out girlie…. rant away! Sure, that’s what this blog is all about. better out than in.

    Your fruit over there is soooooooo cheap compared with over here. You wouldnt be able to buy cherries for €3 over here.

  24. MayaIsReady @ July 3rd, 2009

    (((hugs))) True.

  25. kamaperry @ July 3rd, 2009

    Vent away!! You say alot of the things I only have courage enough to think. NO ONE has the right to judge another, and to get mad and critical just because we don’t think like they do is childish. We are survivors Nancy and we have earned the right to do as we see fit. Oh now you got me going, I feel you!! Love you!

  26. gallavant @ July 4th, 2009

    Honey, if folks haven’t got anything better to talk about than other folks, I feel kind of sorry for them. Besides, people never talk about other people unless they are just a little bit scandalous - and ALL of the interesting people I know are just a tad scandalous.

  27. sabrinaBB @ July 5th, 2009

    Hope you feel better now that you let it all out :) Don’t worry about what others say or think. You and Rod do your thing. :D
    ((HUGS))

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