Money kills the sex drive; Exercise 1 week break starts today
How money can kill the sex drive, mood, sleep and ah yay loving feeling. I hate it when we fight over dumb crap like money!! Seriously!
We’ve been on budget all month. Little arguments about money. Life was all good. We didn’t argue. We were loving; we were like to high school sweethearts.
Then thump dadda dummmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm!!! It all comes to a halt. I’m the frugal one in the family. I’ve been the one who puts money in the savings account because if I don’t he will spend it up like nothing. Thank God I do that.
Well, yesterday I knew we were low on funds and I check my account online more daily to make sure we are not overdrawn. Well dorkbutt!!!! - did that at the ATM but thought we had more then the actual. He goes and starts spending. In the meantime I’m at home and checked the account, said, do a transfer so we don’t get an NSF.
DORKBUTT comes back home and says we have this $$ in the bank. I was like no we don’t. I check the account again online to prove to him I know what I’m talking about and to my horror most of the transfer money but $2.90 was left!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I was livid!
Anyhow, figh insues. But unlike other arguments, we were hot there was a few raised voices, but we squashed it within say 20 minutes. At the end we decided the credit card and debit card is confiscated. He is on a budget set by me. You see, I don’t spend money - he does. He knows this. At the end of the fight he said more then anything he knows he has a problem with money and was so mad at himself for not keeping our budget plans in mind.
Until we can save up the money we want, yay - I have to agree. I need to be in control of our finances; not because I’m a control freak because I’m not. It’s because someone - my honey has no control and I’m the fittest of the two.
I have to take quarterly 1 week exercise break. Starting today. I feel my body asking for a break. For the next week the only thing I will do is walk each day. No KICKBOXING, RUNNING, YOGA, PILATES, WEIGHTS……………………..etc.
i think the money plan is a good idea!
also, how are you gonna handle not exercising! omg! whhat are u gonna do with yourself
I totally understand about the finance situation. Its good that you are taking control someone in the relationship has to or you will end up in bankruptcy because of crazy spending and whatnot you know? I’m laughing that you call him dorkbutt! too funny. I think it is really good that you are listening to your body and taking a well-deserved break! good for you.
Hey Nancy,
I was just cuddling my hubby last night thinking that working too much also kills the sex drive (he’s so tired), so now money and work are evil killers of the sex drive.
Sorry to hear about the money struggle but it looks like you have a plan now and her realizes that he needs to change (a great first step). You’ll get there.
The rest for exercise sounds great, I’m so proud of you for listening to your body and giving it what it needs (and again your are an inspiration for a totally different reason!)
So there you go Nancy, an inspiration when she is exercising AND an inspiration when she takes a break, because she inspires us to LOVE ourselves and listen to our bodies and know when they need work and when they need rest. Thanks Nancy…you know we love you!
Nancy, you take a break. Walking is such good exercise
I can totally relate about the money issues. See I’m the SPENDER and my husband keeps everything in check. I actually had to hand him over all my credit cards, and at one point my bank ATM card WWWWWWWWAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA I was in such withdrawal, you’d think I was a drug addict LOL!!
Sorry you had the fight, but so happy you are so responsible with the finances.
Have a wonderful weekend….hey? after a fight isn’t it time to make up?????????? ohhhlala LOL!! (blushing)
Love ya bunches
Jane
I had to do the same thing with my husband! The credit cards and debit cards are in a “safe place”. Now we deal strictly in cash! So old fashioned but it is saving us so much in all those “little” things that add up way too quickly!
Enjoy your break!
Oh…I know the feeling. Money can cause big stress. LOL about dorkbutt. Hahhah! Oh….are you gonna be able to do a whole week?
Money’s in general are annoying. It sure would be nice to have enough to never worry about it again… Oh, well. But real life is not like that, so I think you are on the right track.
An excersise break? I hope you will have a lot of fun in the time you’ll get off!
I think the idea of an exercise “break” is great. I really like the idea that you’re still moving during your “break” though. Just walking everyday instead of whatever your routine is normally is probably going to re-energize you and really jump-start your weight losses when you kick back into high gear.
Fights are never fun! I know they can lead to other negative behaviors (like over-eating!) but it sounds like you stayed on track.
Good luck!
I can really relate to the money thing. I’m the financially smart one out of the two of us. Hubby is ok with letting me do it, and he doesn’t argue, but if I let him have control we always end up in some sort of trouble. LOL. It’s just a ‘gotta have it’ thing with him. LOL.
Much Love!
D
hubby is the money maker so he is the budgetter… not that I like that at all. I know we’ve tons of things he isn’t paying on so we’re racking up late fees (my wedding ring, his student loans, credit card) so I’ve been calling and I’m going to start making payments..
HE says not to worry about money– he wants to reduce my stress– but its so hard not to when I know we’ve debt, and he isn’t working on it! My ring was $645 and we now owe $900 because of late fees! Ugh. When I’m the money maker, I’M making the budget.
Sorry– I just opened all the mail that went to our old address the other day and found all the bills and when I mentioned it to him he just shrugged and said he knew about it, meanwhile he’s spending $20 a week to pay an online game, and thinks it’s worthless for me to pay $35 a month for WW!!!! GRrrr.
Glad you all worked it out.. i hit submit too soon LOL..
You guys are doing so well. Happy to here– enjoy your break
Glad you guys worked it out
I used to fight about money with my ex all the time. I was the one bringing it home, he was the one spending it.
We both make money and we always talk before we spend it 
It’s important to have a clear understanding how it works with the money in a relationship. I think most fights are over money and that is just to sad.
Nothing wrong with a good healthy fight once in a while 
Not so much for the fighting part, but it’s the making up part I like 
I learned a lot from it and can proudly say that hubby and I never fought over money. Not even once
Well, you guys figured it out and won’t fight anymore in the future … well not over money that is
Enjoy your workout break girl
I bet your body needs it after all the hard work.
Can u confiscate my debit and credit card too ?
SORRY I SUCK at noting lately SOOOOOOOOOO BUSY but I hope things settle between you two! I learned this same lesson quickly with the hubby and he NO LONGER has a debit or credit card. All accounts were shut down and cancelled. I take care of everything budget wise, as long as he has a bit of money here and there, gas for his car and ciggies life’s wonderful for him! LOL HANG IN THERE GIRL ((((((((((((((((((HUGS)))))))))))))))
Well I’m with you on the budgeting the men! Lucky you get to take your exercise break! I guess I sound pretty lame here.. sorry. We already dished about this in emails anyway.
I am not the saver either….good thing we have u savers in our lives
that must be so tough for you to take a break like that… I dont know if I could unless I was forced to.
I answered you at work, Hugs, woman!
Dear Nancy, I have a sincere question, did you delete me? I can not send you and a couple other buddies messages and just thought you blocked me? I sent an email to your account that is not here. Thanks.