I’m NOT CAPTAIN SAVE A HO’! Buddyslim is MY THERAPY! If you don’t like it here - LEAVE! Day 25
Someone wrote a blog yesterday that got under my skin. I’m just glad I didn’t read it when I was PMSing - Debbie knows me - hehehehe-ROFLMAO! Because she would of seen the Ghetto ass Nancy come out swinging. You can’t knock Buddyslim because you didn’t take care of business and want us to play “Captain Save a HO”. Some people, no matter how much you reach out to them, isn’t ready to take that lifesaver. So I won’t waste my time. This is real talk. If you want my help, I will be there. But if you bullshit, then step aside. There’s hundreds more that wants to do this and is willing to listen to this community.
Six months ago I believe, a wonderful buddy, wrote a blog about what would you do once you lose the weight. I wrote something like “To look in the mirror and love myself.” She then wrote me an email asking why I would write something like that. You see, I was in the similar shoes as the person who wrote that off the wall blog yesterday. Even though I was down about 50 lbs, I didn’t LOVE ME!!!!! I was new on Buddyslim and was trying to find my way around here. But when someone reached out and gave me a livesaver I took it. THANK YOU CHRISIE! 
From that day on I started thinking positive. Buddyslim, coupled with the love and understanding I got from Rodney, I am who I am today. I am stronger, I am free and I owe so much of this to you guys. I learned how to be fun again and enjoy myself. As I did that I continue to progress in weightloss and personal growth. I am completely over my ex (crazy nightmare - 0 last night), I LOVE LIFE!! WHOOO HOOOO and I AM IN LOVE WITH ME. I realized first and foremost, that if I don’t value, appreciate and make the girl in the mirror #1, I can’t be there for anyone let alone me!
So Buddyslim - thank you for the free therapy!
I LOVE YOU GUYS!!!! UNLESS MY COMPUTER SERVICE IS CANCELLED AND I DON’T WORK - YOU ALL CAN’T GET RID OF ME. LMAO!!!
Day 25, I was craving food bad but stayed on track. No exercise today. Rest day!
Great progress Nancy… in so many more weighs than just the weight loss, which is truly what this journey is all about.
ROCK ON LADY!
Hugggggggggggggggs,
Shan
Great blog Nancy! There are many people who needs encouragement. Keep on doing it. Whooo hooo!
Thanks ladies! Now have to go finish getting ready for work!
I see you! Hehe, actually I don’t but I had to log on and find out what all the drama was about. I am hangin’ in there, will write more when I can sit a bit longer. Love ya!
I hear ya girl! You have a great life now and are an example to everyone here.
Nancy, seems you and I have the same blog in mind! I did try to reach out and she yanked it out from under my feet! I was so upset when I went to check on her last night only to find her deleted file ! I can’t get it off my mind ! Thank you for answering my blog ! Hugs, Kimmi
OMG you really are my twin in so many ways!!! I was having these exact same thoughts last night.
I am in love with who I am and who I am becoming, and FINALLY coming the the realization that I really AM worthy!
Buddyslim (using it as a tool on my own) AND my buddies here are all a HUGE part of that. I will forever be thankful for this site, and Dr. Marc for creating it.
How anyone could so be so down right rude and nasty like that towards us all as a community, I will never know.
Thanks for an awesome blog today! Putting into word what so many of us are feeling. Take care buddy! Love ya!!!
OMG you really are my twin in so many ways!!! I was having these exact same thoughts last night.
I am in love with who I am and who I am becoming, and FINALLY coming the the realization that I really AM worthy!
Buddyslim (using it as a tool on my own) AND my buddies here are all a HUGE part of that. I will forever be thankful for this site, and Dr. Marc for creating it.
How anyone could so be so down right rude and nasty like that towards us all as a community, I will never know.
Thanks for an awesome blog today! Putting into word what so many of us are feeling. Take care buddy! Love ya!!!
you are welcome! I need to get my mo jo back myself…Help!!!!
Amen Sista! That blog was really upsetting. Meh.
Congrats on (1) inner peace (2) no nightmares!
yaaaaay! T-day is 2 days away 
You go girl! I read that blog and it ticked me off too. Even though I don’t blog that much myself, I enjoy reading others and getting advice and tips I can use. I’m just learning the ropes myself! Have a great day
I totally believe that Buddyslim is like free therapy. There is no way I’d be the person I am today if I wasnt able to let everything that I had pent up inside of me for so long out. You guys are just the best listners with some really good adivce. Ye also help to pick me up when I’m really really down.
AMEN!! I agree!! You are doing great and your love for “you” shines through when you are talking to the rest of us. For this I thank you!! Have a wonderful and happy and safe Holiday weekend!!
First of all, yes that blog made us all upset. If people don’t like it here, just leave. No need for the drama and pity parties..lol Plus I read her other blogs…. man that women need serious professional therapy!
Anyway, you are awesome and a very important buddy of mine that I cherish. You have come such a long way for yourself that it inspires alot of us. Thanks for this blog!
((HUGS))
Girl do your best and screw the rest! xoxoxo!
I wouldn’t take anything she said personally.
If you read any of her posts, she is a very angry person who is spending too much energy blaming anyone she can for her issues.
I wouldn’t respond to such behaviors from anyone I actually knew, let alone someone on a web site.
She felt that she had a right to talk to complete strangers in such a manner, can you imagine what her family must go though? Every post I read in her blog spoke of having a tantrum. Now I’m not saying my life is all peaches and roses, but I can count on one hand the amount of times I have had a tantrum during my adult life.
I have only been coming to this web site for a short time. I don’t need anyone to pet and coo at me to enjoy the company. I love to see all the success. It makes me feel that I can do it too.
good for you!!! so glad to hear you loving yourself! capt’n save a ho - that’s a good one!
U crazy Debbie! You want to be second in command? hehehe - Oh, joining us in the forum any minute now eh?
LOL
You crack me up
Awesome blog, like Catrina said you put into words what so many of us are feeling.
THANK YOU!
Lori
LOL…you go Nancy….
Stupid me actually took the time and replied to her blog, I actually did care. And even better I replied to her “Sorry”blog too. I just seen all the replies that happend after that, wow seems like I missed a good show…
Let’s just hope she gets the help she needs. Well, anyway…that’s done and over with!
You guys are amazing!
Thank you!
Girl I’m right there with you! I’m not sure about anyone else but I was blessed with a lovely booster from her as well :p. Sorry I had to reply, I couldn’t help myself. Honostly tho, I agree with “wildgrits”. She needed a lot of professional therapy. She is a very angry person. I don’t think there is one thing anyone could say to change her mind. And that’s fine. Her life is up to her & what she chooses to make it.
Hope you have a wonderfull Thanksgiving if I don’t make it back to visit b4 then!!
Girl I love you!! I am so with you, trust me my claws came out yesterday, you just DON’T attack my BS family!!
I agree, this site and these people have made me who I am today.
That woman needs help and I sure hope she gets it. I pity her actually.
But you rock on with who you are, Again I love you!
Well, you don’t have to save this ho, but thanks for all the support you do give, you are awesome! Don’t let anyone tell you otherwise!
LOL. Thanks for the comment! If it were the opposite, I would be jealous too! Don’t get me wrong, I would be crazy if I didn’t have a job but everyone needs a break! Best wishes!
This was such a joy to read! I want to look in the mirror and like myself too! I want to feel like I can have fun again!! ^_^ Thanks for writing this! It truly made my day better and you are an inspiration to so many!! ^_^
I think we all agree with you Nancy…Her problem is he fact is that as much as BuddySlim can help us in our weightloss journey, and be a great support system for us all, you have to be able to help YOURSELF first. She can’t expect other people to make her happy and give her what she needs. She needs to meet us halfway to have any of our words matter. I think wer’e all already over it! Best of luck to her…(ps: love your sassy new picture!)
Something I learned awhile back was that there are many sad people in the world who will go to any lengths to get attention. Sadly, Ms. Miriam got exactly what she wanted—and lots of it! I learned long ago ON THIS SITE that it’s always wise to ignore these kinds of people—I read her blog, but her tantrum didn’t merit a response from me. I also felt that a lot of people LOVE the drama and wanted to partake in it. To each their own. I have to admit that there was a time when I too felt a little like her—that I would spend precious time being supportive of others and not getting the same support in return—so, I found the support within myself and kept moving—always appreciating the friends I’ve made along the way! The other thing is, that I keep my buddy list short and only add those I feel a connection to. As with everything in life, you get back what you put it, and some people will love you and others won’t, but the bottom line is that before you can start weeding out people or loving people, you must love yourself—like you said, FIRST and FOREMOST!
You are a wonderful person Nancy, and are very giving in the support department, it’s no wonder you have made a lot of friends on this site. You truly are an example of getting back exactly what you put in….you’ve given me support as far back as when you first joined the site and as I got to know you through your blogs, I wanted to continue to know you!! I feel very blessed and very lucky to have you in my circle of friends.
I’m glad you spoke your mind to this person, I wouldn’t worry about her so much, you’ve got a great thing going here and I feel confident in speaking for many on this site, YOU ARE TRULY AN INSPIRATION!!
And that is why we all love you !!! I know who you are talking about and girl that pissed me off something horrible! I am glad she is gone now
! I know that I am still new here but I have never been around such wonderful people and Nancy you are such and inspiration!! I hope to one day love myself as well and I know that being apart of this site I will 
!! xoxoxoxoxoxoxo
Buddyslim is awesome and Nancy you are too!
There is always gonna be that person that blames everyone else for their own problems….how sad for her. Hope she gets professional help. It is needed-obviously.
**Thanks for always being such a good buddy to me, Nancy. Much love to you!!!
I’m totally with Jo, so I won’t have to type that much!
I’m like you, though, I worry what happens to certain people when they go.
OMGoodness…HELP!!! What blog…Who said what? I’m sooooooooooo lost, I had a friend mention a nasty blog, but now I want to know more
We’ve had a few mean people come through BuddySlim, and we’ve stood strong, and they do leave. It is sad to see people in pain.
Well Nancy, you should love yourself!!! YOU ARE ONE HOT TICKET!!!! Glowing and gorgeous!!!
Thanks for all your support girlfriend
Hugs
Jane