Using sex to derail me; attempt 3 back to back to back
So yesterday I had everything planned out. Work, leave work, go home for a couple hours then head to the gym for a spin class followed by a Pilates Fusion class. This Fusion class is a new one for me; I’m used to regular Pilates. I was so excited about going to the gym. I wanted to practice the new round in kickboxing, wanted to get the routine down pact so I can focus on form. Then I wanted to end my day with something new.
WELLL, I get home and relaxed with my honey. I told him I’m leaving for my classes soon. Dang, he got psychological on me. Told me he can tell I’m gaining weight because he sees it in my butt; then tells me he’s going to his mom because I’m going to the gym. I told hime about the new class I”m trying and he tells me Pilates is Bull$*FHsh%$#*. I told him I respect his opinion but I know it’s a great format. I guess he realized he attempts to keep me home wasn’t working; 6pm comes by and I got dress to leave. Guess what? He pulls out the sex card. I swear, I was watching the clock and trying to hurry things up. Well, well, I missed class, not one but both.
I told him never again will I come home before going to the gym. Most of the time I do my morning routine by 5:45am, work then if I have an afternoon class, get dressed at work and straight to the gym. This strategy of coming home to chill and leaving didn’t work and will never be attempted again. I told him he will not keep me from my workouts.
He starts art school today and it happens to be an evening class. With him out of my way I am going to attempt my first 3 hour block; something I haven’t done in a while. Excessive? Not for me, I used to do 3 hour blocks about 3 times a week about a year ago.
I’m starting it off with an hour of Lifting, then an hour of cardio - kickboxing, then a regular Pilates class to close out the night.
May sound crazy, but I want this day to be over so I can get to it.
Hey Amber, yes - he didn’t want me to workout. It’s one of the things he and I don’t agree on which is my weightloss. Ahhh, makes me angry sometimes but I’m dealing with it.
Hey Terry, I will never understand men either. I’m with you there.
Hey amber, thanks. I will certainly have fun tonight because I’m not going home first.
Thanks Mary. I will certainly enjoy myself tonight.
I admire your excitement towards working out, can you bottle that? I need about a gallon a day!
thanks for sharing. too bad your partner doesn’t share in your enthusiasm.
Hi chubbymomma74,
Hehehehe, if I could bottle it and give you some I would. I just love what I do and it makes me happy. It’s all about attitude and finding something that works for you. I happen to love exercising and it’s my greatest hobby.
It’s gotta suck that he doesn’t support you, even if he doesn’t think you should be focused on weight loss. I don’t think 3 hour blocks are excessive, if you can handle it…which I know you can. I get my three hour blocks in on Saturdays when my son and I walk to the dojo and I take my karate class followed by our sparring class. Three hour blocks feel good! :o)
lol..sorry had to laugh not at you though…cause that totally sounds like something my hubby would do. Sometimes men can be so confusing even after being with my man for 8yrs he still confuses me. Go have fun tonight with that workout!
Work It Girl!
Hi Catrina, Oh, I loved your post.
Wow, someone who understand me!
Vanessa, you brought a smile to my face. Have you ever spent time looking at the clock and wishing it was over? That was me. I can laugh about it now too.
I will have fun tonight.
Hey girl,
It definitely appears your husband was out to derail you but don’t feel too bad. I’m glad you were able to formulate a plan that includes getting to the gym prior to home. Now on the bright side, having sex it a good thing and it burns calories. It may be possible that you can formulate a plan that includes more sex and that will make your hubby feel included on your weight loss journey. You did burn calories last night with the spontaneous romp with your hubby! STAY POSITIVE AND GO FOR IT DIVA!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
It’s a control thing with men. Maybe he is feeling and insecure vulnerable because you are getting slimmer and more toned and even more gorgeous to the opposite sex. He could be worried about competition from other men.
Ignore it. Do what is right for you, and don’t let him take control unless you want him to.
Hi Chereese,
Hehehe, I was too upset to even consider it being a “workout”. I just get really upset when my routine is interrupted.
Thank you for the comment!
Thank you Juliette,
He’s been battling my weightloss efforts since day one. He does not want me to lose weight but like you said, I’m doing it for me.
I feel your pain. My hubby complains if I weight too much, but then freaks out and gets jealous when I lose weight. This time, after months of listening to him bitch about my weight, I decided to work hard to lose it. But, before I started, I warned him that the first sign of jealousy, I would not only stop losing weight, I would be sure to gain an extra 50 pounds on top of whatever I lose! Now, every time he starts to act jealous I ask, “I wonder how late is Graeter’s (a local FATTENING ice cream shop) open?” Shuts him up every time!
Hi Melissa,
Thank you for your comment. I like your approach to it and may use it with him.
It’s hard sometimes to listen to him tell me how sexy and great I looked when I was 180 lbs. I wonder to myself sometimes, how did this happen? Most men want their women to lose weight but not mine.
Have a great day.
That’s pretty low of him. They really know how to push our buttons. Hang in there.
ha ha my b/f does that to me when he stays over during the week. My alarm goes off, I go to get up, and he doesnt let me! TO be honest… he usually wins…. :S !