Plateau, Depression and thoughts of leaving BS
Goals to overcome Plateau:
-DON’T LOSE FOCUS AND DON’T GIVE UP. A part of me wants to throw in the towel and say screw it. I’m burned out on trying to eat right. Exercising is easy, it’s the constant need to account for everything I eat that is getting the best of me.
-Eating 1300 to 1500 on days I workout, like today with 3 classes or more????????. Eat 1200 on off days.
-Drink a cup of cranberry juice a day but I don’t like the fact it has 30 gms of carbs per serving.
-Eat protein and carbs in the morning. Only carb I’ll eat at night is a cup of rice with my chicken.
-Eat more veggies
-Exercise every morning. I’ve been skipping a few morning workouts the last two weeks because I’ve been lazy; although I did take afternoon classes I always felt guilty.
-Give 100% of myself
Truth be told I don’t know if I can do this, do anything right anymore. It’s my living situation that is draining me to bits. We’re getting out own place and all but a part of me is sooooo sad and feel sooo guilty about leaving. I feel like a failure to leave my mom behind for my brother to take care of her. I feel like I failed as the eldest daughter. But as Rodney pointed out I’ve lived in a state of pschological abuse and emotional abuse by my own mom. I deserve to live in harmony, in peace and to cut all the drama out. I can’t save anyone if I can’t save myself. My mom uses fear, intimidation, guilt, control to keep her children close. I am an adult, but with her I feel like I’m 5. I love them all, my brothers and my mom, but I have to let go and move on to do my own thing and make it on my own. But I can’t live with all the stress, the burden of taking care of grown ass adults who is taking complete advantage of me and shows 0 respect. For too long my mom dominated my life and I have to break free. I’m just rambling now. Gotta stop.
This is the first time since April that I considered quitting Buddyslim and hide in my safe shell again. My shell is safe and noone can hurt, emotionally, physically, and mentally.
How awful that we live in a part of the world that we have to watch everything we eat…. a world of too much. We could live in Zimbabwe or some other country (even parts of America) were there is no need to ‘watch what we eat’. If we lived there it just wouldn’t be a problem. So cheer up and thank God that you have plenty…. you just can’t eat it ALL. At least you have a choice. Now, doesn’t that just sound like a ‘grandma lecture’.
But think about it…… and keep on, look how good you’ve done already!
Hi Sweetie,
I am sorry you feel this badly right now. You know though that you are going through alot. It is okay to feel the way you do. It is human to feel this way. It is good to vent and let it all out too! You need sometime to yourself and you have to many demands on you competing for your attention. Understandable! You can afford to cut down on the exercise, but remember cutting it out wouldn’t be helpful to you as because it does lift the spirits.. Just don’t do it
….continuation…… because you have too. Just pace yourself and cutback. I had to cutback too. It is fine. Remember you reached your original goal to get back into your size 7 clothes and the 150s so you did it!!!
As for everything else don’t let it sabotage all the progress you have made. Right now if buddyslim is to much then just use it as needed for your own good-that is what it is there for as much or as little as you need it to give you that boost to improve yourself. I’ll be here whenever you need me just take care of yourself okay? Love ya girl!
Please don’t give up, You CAN do this. Maybr just take a break?
I’m sorry you’re having a rough go of things right now. For what it’s worth I think you are making the right choice by removing yourself from a negative situation.
You bust your butt every week! Why don’t you try to see if you can keep an eye on the diet and keep up your exercising without having to log everything. You’ve been doing really well, you might be ready to test yourself. If nothing else you can give yourself a weeks break and if you slip you can refocus next week.
Don’t give up though. BuddySlim is here to support you! Not just on weight loss either. Any time you want to vent or talk, I’m here. You CAN do ANYTHING you want to do. You do what you got to do, but we’ll be here for you whatever you choose.
I agree with the other comments, do not give up. I am sorry you are going through a rough time right now, it is understandable that it affects your emotional endurance and weight loss goals.
Part of you sounds like you want to continue, you made a list of goals?
Perhaps you could just take a break, eat decently and take a rest and take care of yourself. Then after a week or so, you might want to come back. Whenever you do return, Buddy slim will be here and you will feel refreshed! Just don’t give up permanently, you’ve come very far and you probably do not want to undo everything you did?
The instinct to retreat into your shell when things go wrong is normal, but opposite of what you need to do. hang on and lean on all of us through the rough time. As for your mom - the only way to fix an abusive relationship is to get out of it. You have to get away from the abuser and heal, or at least get stronger before there’s any chance of repairing the relationship.
Think of your child of your best friend, and what you would do to someone who treated them like she’s treating you. Now, give yourself the same amount of love!!!
Hey Nancy. I am so sorry you are having to go through this. It sounds like the decision is eating you up but from someone on the outside looking in it seems like the best decision to get your own place. If you stayed you may be enabling your mom to use you and that is not healthy for both of you. I can definitely tell the situation you are in is very hard but you know what the best thing is for you to do. You have to take care of your mind, body and soul first so that you can give of yourself completely. Please don’t leave buddyslim - you are such a great buddy! Also, don’t beat yourself up if you are not sticking with your workout plan 100%. You are going through a lot right now and it will work itself out. Just stick with your eating program and workout and you will be fine.
oh honey,
don’t you do this to yourself.
just think about how you would feel if you would quit. just take a break and sort things out for yourself. I know you can do that, i have so much faith in you. YOu are a beautifull strong woman. Hold on to your man, and come talk to me if you need to. I have hit that point more than once and you were always there for me. I like to be there for you too. you are my friend and i don’t ever want to see you quit. you have come way to far.
focus on the future, you and rodney are going to find the sweetest place and be happy. fight that feeling of feeling guilty with your family. there is a time you have to let go…..I think it is your time to let go of them. they’ll live. they can take care of themself. good luck sweety. i’m here for you always.
love ya
Life sometimes really knocks the wind out of you. You are making the right choice. Your first priority has to be your self. Period. Moving out and having your own life is a compliment to your mother. She raised you to be a wonderful, caring, independent person. She will see that and respect it. Even if she doesn’t say it. I left you a message on my blog. Hang in there sweetie your gonna make it.